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Sometimes people also get confused about what exactly dating is. Even after all my experiences and being 26 years old, there are times that i'm not sure what that fine line between friendship and dating is. A long time ago there would be no question. If a male and female arranged to spend time together, there must have been something to it, not just 'friendship.'



I agree with the thought that forming a solid friendship and getting to know each other well first is a good idea.
 
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FFD said:
I agree with the thought that forming a solid friendship and getting to know each other well first is a good idea.
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I think it's more important to be friends with someone and form that friendship first!! That way when you start dating you'll know each other and it will be more special!!
 
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I'm not sure what exactly is "dating" that you guys are reffering to. But I've only had one gf that I knew for two years and it ended horribly after going out for 10 months. Now I'm stuck between never wanting to date again and wanting to date just to stop thinking about her. I don't mean to judge but lets say she wasn't as christian as I thought she would be.
 
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beetlequeendiva said:
I think it's more important to be friends with someone and form that friendship first!! That way when you start dating you'll know each other and it will be more special!!
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Amen my sister in Christ as you hit it on the money!
 
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I agree with "beetlequeendiva" there - creating more friendships means we can unite together - we can learn about acceptance within friendships and we can learn about differences and the way God created us!

But - yeah - I don't have experience like - socialising to girls is rare.
 
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I've never dated. I came to faith in a church that was very strict on the whole aspect of relationships. I am now in between churches, but am glad that I have more freedom with this area of life and can date. I would only date someone when we both feel that there is a long-term possibilty of us being together. Anyway, I've always been a strong believer that a relationship should blossom out of a strong friendship. God will us to the right person and so we shouldn't worry about it too much, yet I feel it is a good idea to be pro-active to some degree so that we could meet that person
 
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"People didn't date in the bible just for the sake of dating anyways. When it was time for them to go get married, God brought them to the right person."

Amen to that, I just finished reading about how Isaac didn't marry Rebeka until he was forty years old. He waited for forty years and then God brought him a wife; and I thought four years was a long wait!
 
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I've never dated, mostly by choice. My views on "relationship models" have been shifting more towards the idea that the spectrum of "models," or "theories," is continuous, i.e., similar to the spectrum of a non-bandlimited signal, rather than discrete. However, I believe there are definitely substantial differences between what you could label, "secular dating," "christian dating," "courtship," or "betrothal." With either analog or digital filters, it's impossible to construct a filter that perfectly selects any given frequency, but you can get darn close. I think the relationship "models" are the same way. They can be given a specific name, but they will never be "pure," in the sense of being only courtship or only dating.

I'm saying all of this because I can't figure out how to put what I'm really feeling right now in words, and because I really liked my digital communications class last semester. I think it also demonstrates one of the reasons I've never dated.

To be at least a little constructive, I'd say that I do agree with the importance of the "friends" issue.
 
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I would only date somebody with an goal in long-term relationship as well as an strong friendship and strong communion and relationship to the Lord.
 
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For those who want to save themselves from the person that are to marry.
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Oh, no, I don't want to save myself from the person I am going to marry, but to save myself for the person I am going to marry. I think that's what you meant though.

this is to vent from their singleness, their thoughts about dating, the opposite sex, God's thoughts on dating, etc.
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I don't need to vent. I have only just begun searching. I never really have had a dating experience that counts; I have avoided men to pursue other things like education and career, but I am beginning to desire fellowship with men now. I just don't know where to look.
 
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