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ovjumper

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Another question for everyone out there. Do you like to be coddled and babied? When I'm sick, I love to be waited upon (so I can't wait to see his reaction if I ever get sick). When I'm well, I usually don't get waited upon, so I can't really say. Also, can there be too much coddling? Can it get annoying? What does everyone think?
 

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I'm just gonna say, as a guy, I like to take care of my girl when she's sick. I like to take care of her whenever I can.

But I do show her that I know that she can take care of herself, that doesn't mean that I don't want to all the time.

(I pray that you are blessed in your approaching relationship, may God be the center of the two of you so that you can grow together in love and Him)
 
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depends on the couple

i like to be taken care of to an extent when i'm sick. but if i feel up to doing something i want to do it.

i think it can be overdone... or a girl COULD just use the guy for doing everything for her.

my boyfriend is super sweet... he'd do ANYTHING for me, and i mean anything. if i said i was thirsty, he'd go get me something to drink -- that simple. (i'm kind of the same way, to an extent)

he's way too easy and sweet to take advantage of, and he'd allow it to happen (without even realizing he was being taken advantage of)... which makes me want to be partially independent and not let him do TOO much for me...

 
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I pretty much agree with what's been said.

I would certainly appreciate the extra care, but I don't want him to slave over me either. When I get sick, I don't normally lay around unless I'm REALLY sick. I'll find easy things to do like play on the comp, play video games, work on my website or something else constructive like that. So some attention and coddling is ok, but I don't want to be prevented from doing whatever I want to do. Mostly, I'd just want him to be there and be good company, play games with me and stuff
 
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Its really a toss up.

In theory I like the idea of extra attention, in practice, I like to do my own thing and to be treated like he treats himself- he knows I like this without me saying.

If I'm sick he doesn't come and gush all over me, but then again he rarely see's me when I'm ill.
 
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