If you want to know what God is like you just have to look to Jesus since one of the reasons He came to earth was to show us what God is like.
We are to be objective driven and Christ was objective driven, so we should expect God to be objective driven.
Just as Godly type Love should compel us to do all we do, God’s Love would compel Him, so Love (which is also God) compelled God to make humans not for some need He had, but because God could make beings who He could gift with the greatest gifts possible including the gift to become like God Himself (with Godly type Love). God’s Love compels God to make humans for the sake of those few humans who will humbly accept God’s charity (mercy/grace/Love/forgiveness) and thus become Like Himself. The way this happens is from what we know and Jesus’ teaching: “…he that is forgiven much Loves much…”, so if you have accepted forgiveness of an unbelievable huge debt created by sin, you will automatically obtain an unbelievable huge Love (Godly type Love).
Since God is Love we would expect God to do and/or allow all He can to help humans fulfill their earthly objective and that is what we see, with that “all” including: Christ going to the cross, Satan roaming the earth, All kinds of tragedies, Hell, sin, God’s wrath, and God’s judgement.
Look at the prodigal son story to help you understand God’s Love, justice and “wrath”
- God as a good father would know what His son would do, yet God allows His young son to get into huge trouble. (God is not trying to “keep” the sinner from sinning, since it should help him down the road in accepting God’s charity [forgiveness and thus obtaining Love]).
- God does not send servants to “recue” the son, but knows the son will come to his senses and thus be able to make the free will choice to stay in the pigsty where he deserves to be or wimp out and humbly accept the Father’s help (forgiveness/Love).
- The young son could have been macho after he came to his senses and paid the piper by staying and dying in the pigsty, he could have avoided his brother’s ridicule and not disturbed his father anymore. In this way we could see the father’s judgment and wrath coming down on the son, but it is really the son’s choice and it would not please the father.
- The prodigal son when he came to his senses could see where he was headed, just as the sinner can come to his senses and see where he is headed if he does not give up.
God does not have a problem with anger or being just without it being Loving justice. The issue is not with God or does punishing the sinner with hell help that sinner. Hell like everything else is to help the individual still able to make the choice to accept or reject God’s charity, it is a real alternative to not humble accepting God’s charity, but it is not like putting a gun to the head of the sinner since the sinner has to believe there is a God and a hell, so it is part of the saving faith believe.