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Are these common practices?

Mark Quayle

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I agree, except for, to me, the importance of the interview, not only with AN elder, but with the board of elders. (Or, if the church is too large for that, with a selection of wise elders).
 
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Life-long Baptist though I am, I would warn you away from a church with these sorts of...stipulations for attendance and participation in the community of believers. The stipulations have a distinctly controlling, cultish flavor that I don't see spelled out or instituted anywhere in the NT. I get that the Elders are trying to "guard the flock of God," as they are charged by God in Scripture to do. But the means by which they are attempting to do so is not God-centered and God-reliant but man-centered and rule-oriented. Believers are to be brought into community with one another on the basis of the Spirit within them and a love of Jesus Christ, not crowded and controlled into community by processes and man-made "covenants." I say this as an Elder of my own church.

1 Peter 5:2-3
2 shepherd the flock of God among you, exercising oversight not under compulsion, but voluntarily, according to the will of God; and not for sordid gain, but with eagerness;
3 nor yet as lording it over those allotted to your charge, but proving to be examples to the flock.
 
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The only thing that comes to mind for signing something in my experience is to be a "member in good standing", and then only for being able to vote in a church's general assembly or be a member of the church parish council.
 
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