Starting today August 7th, 2024, in order to post in the Married Couples, Courting Couples, or Singles forums, you will not be allowed to post if you have your Marital status designated as private. Announcements will be made in the respective forums as well but please note that if yours is currently listed as Private, you will need to submit a ticket in the Support Area to have yours changed.
That's my point dear, there are only two ways one can know "god's reality"...
1) how they feel/how god has spoken to them.. .which is subjective
2) the word of god, which we've already shown is subjective...
you cannot prove to anyone in uncertain terms what "god's reality"
With the exception of the most 'hardened' Bible believers (we have at least a couple on this forum) one's 'homosexuality' is probably reasoned by other Christians to be the result of biological or sociological factors. In other words, one's homosexual orientation or tendency is accepted by most (?) as being beyond the control of the individual whereas one's actually 'acting' on that orientation is seen to be 'the sin' ...right?
With that in mind, from a Christian perspective what are the options available for the homosexual person? Are they:
1. Pray to God and be 'delivered' from his/her homosexual orientation?
2. Seek 'professional' assistance in the form of therapy.
3. Marry someone of the opposite gender and do the best he/she can in a heterosexual relationship?
4. Remain celibant for the rest of his/her life?
5. Contemplate suicide if overwhelmed with guilt from the incessant influence of Christians whose role is seen to be to condemn them?
Notes:
1. Many people have prayed earnestly to God to be delivered from their homosexuality. It hasn't helped them deal with it but it HAS given them an extra burden to carry when Christians tell them that they haven't got enough faith.
2. Many people have sought 'professional' assistance and have been just as let down. Professional therapy is questionable at best ...useless at worst.
3. Many homosexuals HAVE married someone of the opposite gender. I have no way of knowing how 'fulfilling' such a relationship is or how long-term such a relationship can be. Living a lie is also very much a burden to carry for the individual. Being a homosexual+ostracized by God+living a lie.
4. Remaining celibant is an option. It always amuses me, however, when others (heterosexuals) who wouldn't DREAM of giving up sex will not hesitate to impose 'being celibant' on others.
5. Sadly, suicide has been the option for too many precious 'gay' people. Enough said.
What are your views on this issue?
Personally, I believe that #4 is the only reasonable option of the choices you mentioned, but as you stated, I as a heterosexual am completely unwilling to live a life of celibacy, so what right do I have to demand that of my homosexual brothers and sisters? So, I suppose the best thing for me to do as a heterosexual Christian (who incidentally is not completely convinced that homosexual relationships are totally healthy and "moral") is to follow the example of Jesus and simply love each "sinner" as they are and let them work out their "sin" with God. It seems to me that if we all focused on the gospel message of grace and love, then those who struggle with homosexual thoughts and feelings would have a much easier time working through the intensely difficult moral questions involved. I frankly don't see any reason to dwell on telling people how "evil" and sinful the homosexual lifestyle is." My impression is that there is not a homosexual alive who has not heard that message (however right or wrong it may be) a million times over. Instead, it seems more appropriate to simply tell them that God's love is infinitely deep for all people and God is more than capable of delivering each of us from our sins when we are ready to be healed.
Fundamentalism doesn't heal sinners; Jesus does. Enough said.
Thanks, I needed that. I know I don't have it as bad as homosexuals in the persecution department, but I really do feel like a freak, and that nobody can understand that I lack these desires. I'm told it's a gift by some, a defect/disorder by others.. -_-; At least it's lawful..Not all. Some people such as I believe Ishida is, are called to a higher purpose and are set apart for service unto God that may not include a wife and family and are known in the Bible as Eunuchs. It does not mean they are not normal or healthy. What it does mean is praise the Lord, sexual immorality will be one less temptation in life for them to have to deal with!
I am sure if God's plan changes at any time along the journey of his life, God will let him
know in more than one way, but he is content in the service to which he has been called.
He should be encouraged and not ashamed.
Thanks, I needed that. I know I don't have it as bad as homosexuals in the persecution department, but I really do feel like a freak, and that nobody can understand that I lack these desires. I'm told it's a gift by some, a defect/disorder by others.. -_-; At least it's lawful..
Is the bible the way to distinguish? If so, why is it that so many people interpret it differently? If it can be interpreted do differently, how can it be a useful tool for this?
With the exception of the most 'hardened' Bible believers (we have at least a couple on this forum) one's 'homosexuality' is probably reasoned by other Christians to be the result of biological or sociological factors. In other words, one's homosexual orientation or tendency is accepted by most (?) as being beyond the control of the individual whereas one's actually 'acting' on that orientation is seen to be 'the sin' ...right?
With that in mind, from a Christian perspective what are the options available for the homosexual person? Are they:
I have seen this tactic go both ways. I know many fellow Homosexuals who have said to me that they prayed and prayed and prayed, and God turned from them. I have seen many pray for years, to finally hear what God has to say to them. "Your ok, and I will give you the strength you need to remain true to yourself ; because I made you in my image."1. Pray to God and be 'delivered' from his/her homosexual orientation?
2. Seek 'professional' assistance in the form of therapy.
I find it sad that I can legally and legitimately marry a women that I don't love, or find in anyway sexually attractive; but I can not marry the man I have been with for years, love, respect, and wish to live in a monogamous, loving relationship for the rest of our lives. You know,,, the way God wants me to.3. Marry someone of the opposite gender and do the best he/she can in a heterosexual relationship?
4. Remain celibate for the rest of his/her life?
Been there, glad I failed. Enough said.5. Contemplate suicide if overwhelmed with guilt from the incessant influence of Christians whose role is seen to be to condemn them?
My question is... why can't christians stop hating the gays? (I think i'd be great if you stop hating on the atheists too, but we'll get to that).
Fine, i get it. Your religious beliefs clearly indicate we're not going to your heaven. Why must some christians restrict our lives and our happiness here on earth? If I want to commit my life to someone, how does that harm you or your religion or your faith or your ability to connect with your god and go to heaven?
My question is... why can't christians stop hating the gays? (I think i'd be great if you stop hating on the atheists too, but we'll get to that).
Fine, i get it. Your religious beliefs clearly indicate we're not going to your heaven. Why must some christians restrict our lives and our happiness here on earth? If I want to commit my life to someone, how does that harm you or your religion or your faith or your ability to connect with your god and go to heaven?
Love corrects. It is not silent as people race down the highway to hell.
Hasty generalization.My question is... why can't christians stop hating the gays? (I think i'd be great if you stop hating on the atheists too, but we'll get to that).
Fine, i get it. Your religious beliefs clearly indicate we're not going to your heaven. Why must some christians restrict our lives and our happiness here on earth? If I want to commit my life to someone, how does that harm you or your religion or your faith or your ability to connect with your god and go to heaven?
True. Love corrects when appropriate and necessary, but love also shows grace and mercy. The simple fact is that just about every homosexual in America has heard the message of moralizing and condemnation that you and others on this forum proclaim. That message has its place, but I don't believe that it serves any benefit apart from a proper understanding of the grace and love of God as revealed through Jesus. For this reason, I do not believe in the slightest, that to preach the message of law and condemnation apart from the message of grace is at all loving.
In short, moralization and guilt do not heal sinners -- Jesus does.
And it IS appropriate and necessary, in fact in this forum, it is a downright emergency.
Jesus is coming. We need to be ready.
Preaching the truth against the false teachers in here who are deceiving people, that homosexuality is an abomination and on the list of things that will keep us out of Heaven is not condemning. It is revealing that God has already condemned it and it is NOT acceptable in the eyes of God which counters the false teachings and flatteries with the truth from the mouth of God to the pens of men.
It is shining the light in the dark places. God is the judge, He has told us the judgment He has made, and we need to stop deceiving ourselves and others. People are being lied to in this forum Big time.
False teachers are running amok, pretending a) that they are on their way to heaven for one, and b)pretending that they love homosexuals, while preaching into their ears the things they want to hear, so that those preaching what they want to hear will be popular and well liked rather than risking not being liked and tell the truth to the saving of their souls.
As it also says in the Word, it is better to be offended by a friend than kissed by an enemy.
People that claim to love them, while giftwrapping them as they send them down
the road to destruction are not their friends, and will be held accountable.
PS. Those that think they are well, do not seek healing from Jesus.
The truth of God's Word allows us to see our condition before God.
It is what brings us to seek Him, not the lies and niceties in the pretty packages
that the new age church is preaching today. That just causes people to join
a club, but they are not seeking nor getting the salvation of their souls.
So, are you suggesting that you believe that salvation comes by obedience to the law? My understanding is that salvation comes only by the grace of God, through faith, and that it is through faith that God heals us in our sin. If this is true, and I believe that this is pretty standard evangelical teaching, then the message we need to be spreading is the good news of the grace of God, not the message of condemnation of the law.
I am not here claiming that I believe that the Bible condones homosexuality, nor am I claiming that biblical teaching on homosexuality is wrong. All that I am suggesting is that every homosexual in America has already heard the message of condemnation and judgment, and that I believe that it is evangelical Christianity's exclusive focus on this message, and the consequent reaction by many on the left, that has led to so much confusion about this issue. Instead, I am proposing a third path for Christians to pursue, one that neither condemns (because that is God's job) nor condone, but one that simply preaches the grace of God and that trusts God to change the heart of the sinner in all of us.
In short, I am far more concerned about homosexuals who are pushed away from the Church, even into atheism, because they have never been taught about the depth of God's grace, than I am about those who are Christians, but who continue in the homosexual lifestyle. I am convinced that we are called to share the gospel ("the good news of God's grace) to all sinners (meaning everyone) and to trust God to change our hearts and our actions.
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?
We use cookies and similar technologies for the following purposes:
Do you accept cookies and these technologies?