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Stanfi

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I have the oppourtunity to meet a lady.. ok let me rephrase.. I have a friend who is VERY strongly insisting that I meet a lady who is about 8 years older than I. She had a daughter who is college age, and a son who is in high school. Supposedly she doesn't look her age, and is rather attractive. She is also a Christian.

It just seem a little weird to me. I mean age wise I am right in between her and her daughter. I was in 2nd grade when she graduated!!! What do yo all think on age difference?
 

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Well, I don't know how it is for men, but I know I prefer to be with men who are older than me (27-35). I was engaged to a man when I was 20 who was 36. It was funny because he graduated the year I was born. He was in college when I started kindergarten. The age difference only became a problem when he acted condescending. You know the whole, "when you're my age you'll understand" bit?

If it bothers you, I wouldn't start anything up; however, if you have no real aversion to dating an older woman I say give it a shot. You two may have more in common than you would initially expect.
 
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Oh, go meet her already!

Meeting someone doesn't guarantee a relationship. So if you do meet her and you decide, I'm a little uncomfortable with this, then you are under no obligation to continue seeing her. But what if she turned out to be just what you are looking for? And you would have passed it up due to a couple of years age difference.

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What about the reality, that more than likely they will die before you?

You take this chance with anyone you meet. We, none of us, are guaranteed our next breath. You might die before she does, you just don't know. (Nice thought, huh?)

Now, quit making those excuses and at least meet her!
 
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Well, since both of you are christians I suppose that you would like to date with serious purpose, especially that you both are not teenagers any more.
If so there are other things to consider:
Maybee not only the 8 years is the question (cause it's more about personality than age) but the "kids" as well. I mean I'm not sure if they have a dad or not, but probably this lady also wants a "step father" for her children.
And how about you, I mean if you like her you'll marry but can you imagine to start a family with a 40 year old woman? Will she give a birth to your kids as well? If so, she'll be retired when they start collage...
Finally she already has a good or bad "idea" about family life with grown kids and with tons of memories and experiences... it can make it more difficult

By the way I also believe that God has planned a no. one mate for everyone and I think he/she should be quite similar to your age and life stage/situation.
 
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mrstace said:
Next commentator please. That last one was a little to bossy!

No wonder your friend has to STRONGLY SUGGEST that you meet someone!!!

I would strongly suggest that you quit worrying and try to enjoy yourself!!
 
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I know I'm not as old as some of the other commentators on this thread, and certainly not as old as mrstace, but I thought I'd share my opinion.

I used to have a huge deal with age. Through out High School there was this one Gal who was only two months older than me, and I said no way because of the age. We we're in love, no doubts, but for me the age was just too much. But for me now, age is just something else we don't really need to worry about.

My junior year of H.S. I knew how I felt about this girl, and I wasn't going to ignore it anymore. We'd both been to afraid to say anything to each other because we both knew how I felt. So when I finally tried to make something of our relationship, she said no, because she knew how I felt, and so she was too afraid to try. We are still great friends now, but God has since shown me the real reason he had her say no.

I'm a very emotional Guy, and as I said me and this girl were in love. If She'd of said yes, I'm quite sure that I would have proposed by now. That's why God had her say no. When we finally got down to this point of date or not, I asked her to discribe her relationship with Christ. She was confused, because before all I had asked her was if she was Christian. By Church she was, but by faith she was still lost.

As I've shared in several other threads, I know that God's got an awesome future for me. Imagine what I would have lost if she'd of said yes.

So why the whole story?

While I know you're just considering a date, the only thing that should stop you is what God has told you. Now, age, smarts, abilities, wealth, all mean nothing to me because I want that One person God has planned for me. I eagerly await the day when I'm to meet her, but I want to meet God's choice, not mine.

Pray about this discission, because in reality, only God can tell you what direction to Go.

I hope this helped.
 
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My mom about flipped when I told her about this woman. She said doesn't (my friend) know any younger people? lol

Made me think of a little conferdate railroad "Dad said Son that ain't no kid/ that's a coctail waitress in a Dolly Parton wig/ I said I know it dad, ain't she cool, that's the kind I dig".
 
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