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Hi all,

After a couple of really tumultuous weeks filled with peace, joy, frustration, and grief, I wanted to run a few thoughts by the group.

Just when I thought all was well with my brain, I had a terrible spike of thoughts that occured when I was out sick (I hate sick days, being alone with my thoughts and no strength to distract myself or deal...). The "one-up-manship" of ocd left me confused, embarassed, and ashamed before God. It was like a "bottoming out" experience, because I had no energy to even react. Maybe that was a good thing therapeutically.

Anyway, I did something so uncharacteristic for my overactive brain during a spike. I gave up and turned on the TV to just "veg". I had no energy for anything else. I settled on a show that I had never seen before - "Nanny 911." The show featured these kids that were monsters, yellling back at their parents, defying them, etc. The house was in chaos, but it was nonetheless a family built on love. It made me think about my own interactions with God. OCD aside, I am just like those unruly little creatures - prone to act out against and disobey the very hand that feeds and has created me.

The significance of the repeated Gospel theme of our "adoption" by Christ to be His children became clearer than ever. Although my mind can "throw tantrums," and rebell - intentional or otherwise, that does not change the relationship to which I have been called to Christ as His child.

I appreciate more deeply this sense of God's adoption. As his children we attempt to mature, but in doing so we meet greater challenges, leading us to realize how awesome of a God we need and indeed have. We have a God who seeks us to call Him "Father." We are infinitely fortunate beyond description to have an unbreakable bond with our Heavenly Father, through Jesus Christ.

"For ye have not received the spirit of bondage again to fear; but ye have received the Spirit of adoption, whereby we cry, Abba, Father." (Romans 8:15)

Have a great weekend brothers and sisters!

Marc
 

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Marc...I am sorry you had a "bottoming out" experience...I do appreciate your analogy. I hope there is a way though to avoid the bottoming out feelings in the future...I share them all to well and it wrecks us...I can't believe how ignorant I have been about the freedom of my mind. Was I that naive to be totally "shocked" at my thoughts if there are no boundaries in the mind?..The question is not "if" we can think something b/c obviously can go anywhere. The question is will I stop fearing what I can think (which is anything at all) and trust in the promises of God and what I believe to be truth. Honestly, I want to do therapy for my OCD religious so I stop fearing a "spike". Have you done any of this ERPT? It has become so clear to me that the things we are most afraid of thinking about are what we end up thinking about. I don't think I really understood that before. I don't have any obsessive thoughts about my house getting struck by lightning nor does it ever cross my mind...Why b/c I am not afraid of that happening. Fearing a bad thought about God, fearing he will reject me for it? Absolutely crosses my mind. I want to face these thoughts in therapy so they lose power over me. For all with OCD, Hopefully if we face our worst fears in honesty, they will lose power, and we will stop fearing a spike, and if the fear is gone, likely the spike will not occur. Lets be determined to face our worst fears so they die and then we don't have to keep feeling like we blew it again.
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I have not done exposure response prevention therapy, but I am attempting a modified version, where I try to relax when the thoughts hit. I also try not to give them any further thought. I guess the only difference is I don't go looking for them intentionally, although my mind does occasionally scan for things. I like your insight and resolve to beat this! Marc
 
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For starters...you are doing the right thing .
Eventually you will be able to look for things intentionally, and not have it bother you at all .
 
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