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ChildByGrace

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The need for a little rant!!

Why is it that everyone assumes that I will be going back to work as soon as I can after I have had the baby!!!
My closest friends know that I won’t be so they haven’t said anything but nearly everyone that I’ve told so far has asked when I’m going back or words to those effect.
Why can’t people see that I want to be a SAHM and I won’t feel like I have lost my identity? Anyone who knows me well – basically most of the people that I have told – know that I hate my job and I am living for the day that I can leave here (that’s not why I’m having a baby btw). So many people are ‘what will you do with all your time?’ ‘Won’t you get bored being at home?’ The big answer is NO – I was made by God to be a SAHM and I can’t wait to fulfil my potential as a mom and homemaker.

Rant over (I blame it on the pregnancy hormones )
 

jessesgirl

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I was used to having two jobs a time @ minimum before I got married and my husband and I decided I would stay at home. I went crazy @ first when it was just me, but since Justin has been born, I work TEN TIMES harder than I have EVER worked outside of the home. Having babies and taking care of them yourself is work...BIG TIME. I hope you get to stay at home like you want to.
 
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Before I got married I was used to having a non-stop schedule...running here and there and doing everything in between. I was involved with every activity our church had and was always volunteering for different things. I was in college when we got married and my husband didn't want me to have to work while going to school and suggested that I quit my job and focus on my schoolwork. After we were married I got pregnant three months afterwards. I ended up stopping my college education after my second semester because of my morning sickness. I had morning sickness so severely that getting a job while pregnant was also, unfortunately, not an option. It was really hard for me to handle at first, with going from being so busy to just sitting around the house doing nothing when all the house work had been done. It does help now that my little one is here. It definitely keeps my hands full. Just make sure you leave time for yourself to get out of the house to spend time with your friends or husband every week or couple weeks. That's something I'm struggling with now....I feel stuck at home all day and really don't have anything to do in the evenings once my husband comes home and is able to watch our son. My friends all work or are in college so I have no where to go. During the day I can't even get out of the house to run errands because we only have one car at the moment, which hubby uses for work. Anyway...even when it gets difficult I remind myself that it's important for me to be home raising our son and that it's one of the best things I can do for him. I do enjoy spending so much quality time with him each day. Sometimes I feel bad for my husband who works two jobs (He teaches and owns his own business). He comes home and snatches our son up into his arms and just hugs him and plays with him. I know he wishes he had more time to spend with him. So, I don't ever want to take the moments I have with my son for granted. No matter what just remember that your decision is yours alone to make...no one else's and as long as your doing what you know to be best for your baby then that's all that matters. Good luck with everything!
 
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