We are much more comfortable in the role of adviser. I know I said it to my younger brother the other day."You really should forgive that person." But looking back now, I see that it is easier for me to say than do. I'm not in his shoes. How does it really feel to be him? I don't really know.
Because I have my own issues. It is hard to admit unforgiveness. Especially when we feel a responsibility to be a role-model. I think that is why my oldest brother doesn't show his vulnerable side. He hasn't forgiven some people, but he wont admit that to us. Still he preaches to us sometimes "you must forgive."
I haven't fully forgiven members of my family really. And I can see that would also affect my relationships with other people outside my family. In my mind, there is still some self-righteous indignation. "I have a right to be still angry don't I ?"
Because I have my own issues. It is hard to admit unforgiveness. Especially when we feel a responsibility to be a role-model. I think that is why my oldest brother doesn't show his vulnerable side. He hasn't forgiven some people, but he wont admit that to us. Still he preaches to us sometimes "you must forgive."
I haven't fully forgiven members of my family really. And I can see that would also affect my relationships with other people outside my family. In my mind, there is still some self-righteous indignation. "I have a right to be still angry don't I ?"