I just thought of something that be a problem. It is certainly going to make me more careful about whatever words I write. So I see that it looks like this falling out at least between them & M1 is pretty new/ recent, as in just since the end of April or at least then ( maybe even some time after that). I personally don't consider something real/set after only that long. It just doesn't seem like a long enough time.
Common sense says you shouldn't talk about or give your negative opinions etc. about someone that another person is or was close too maaaybe if it's been a period of years and a non-relative... otherwise one could be looking for trouble. Maybe someone might do that to bond, or just show they empathise, or just because it's what they think... but if the other person still has conflicting feelings or their feelings change- that could mean trouble. It's funny & evident how most times someone could go around critizising or bad-mouthing someone like a parent or another person close to them, but then if another person says those exact same words- look out.
So that's a thought. Then another another is what if this falling out happened because of the situation w/ M1's relatives, because they are taking their relatives sides, was under constant ear shot of whatever talk about J? What if it was M1 that got bothered, cut the relationship off, defriended this person? What if the feeling wasn't mutal, or totally mutual. I assumed that the reason I got silence when I mentioned M1's name was because they didn't want to mention anything if I'm saying M1 and I are/were friends (and it made things worse to them because C is friends with me as well). But what if they had/have something in there, that they were bothered whatever or at least wondering why I'm friends with them and they're not, that whole thing. Ok like they'd like to be friends still with M1, but it was mainly M1 ( & their family's decision).
I really don't want to get in the middle of that one. The other would be an issue of trust, which I think would be esier to get around or dispel. Ah but this kind of thing not so easy. Without my knowing or choosing I could be an object of resentment, like if they are bothered/annoyed whatever because they feel think I'm more in the family's good graces & especially M1's. What can one do about something like that? I mean then one can be dealing with someone who could have two sets of feelings or both: resentment & bitterness & or hurt & sadness. I don't think anything is showing that M1 & I are close enough now to provoke any feelings of like jealousy...
God's really gonna have to help me if these are the case.
I could put a statement out there about M1 and see what kind of reaction I get... if I found it to be true, that still wouldn't be an answer of how to deal with/ get around that.
Hmm they didn't ask me anything like how do I know them or what years or how long etc...but what exaclty does that mean different people handle things differently- it could mean they are still hurt and sore over it, it's still raw and they'd rather not mention it, or they may just be expressing that they cut them out and they don't care/ & or don't want to waste time looking back.
This is it..."a heart exposed"....
YouTube - You shall love Me, by Misty Edwards
I believe God will lead me and reveal what I need to know...
Common sense says you shouldn't talk about or give your negative opinions etc. about someone that another person is or was close too maaaybe if it's been a period of years and a non-relative... otherwise one could be looking for trouble. Maybe someone might do that to bond, or just show they empathise, or just because it's what they think... but if the other person still has conflicting feelings or their feelings change- that could mean trouble. It's funny & evident how most times someone could go around critizising or bad-mouthing someone like a parent or another person close to them, but then if another person says those exact same words- look out.
So that's a thought. Then another another is what if this falling out happened because of the situation w/ M1's relatives, because they are taking their relatives sides, was under constant ear shot of whatever talk about J? What if it was M1 that got bothered, cut the relationship off, defriended this person? What if the feeling wasn't mutal, or totally mutual. I assumed that the reason I got silence when I mentioned M1's name was because they didn't want to mention anything if I'm saying M1 and I are/were friends (and it made things worse to them because C is friends with me as well). But what if they had/have something in there, that they were bothered whatever or at least wondering why I'm friends with them and they're not, that whole thing. Ok like they'd like to be friends still with M1, but it was mainly M1 ( & their family's decision).
I really don't want to get in the middle of that one. The other would be an issue of trust, which I think would be esier to get around or dispel. Ah but this kind of thing not so easy. Without my knowing or choosing I could be an object of resentment, like if they are bothered/annoyed whatever because they feel think I'm more in the family's good graces & especially M1's. What can one do about something like that? I mean then one can be dealing with someone who could have two sets of feelings or both: resentment & bitterness & or hurt & sadness. I don't think anything is showing that M1 & I are close enough now to provoke any feelings of like jealousy...
God's really gonna have to help me if these are the case.
I could put a statement out there about M1 and see what kind of reaction I get... if I found it to be true, that still wouldn't be an answer of how to deal with/ get around that.
Hmm they didn't ask me anything like how do I know them or what years or how long etc...but what exaclty does that mean different people handle things differently- it could mean they are still hurt and sore over it, it's still raw and they'd rather not mention it, or they may just be expressing that they cut them out and they don't care/ & or don't want to waste time looking back.
This is it..."a heart exposed"....
YouTube - You shall love Me, by Misty Edwards
I believe God will lead me and reveal what I need to know...