I have 2 step children. 8 (boy) and 12 (girl)years old. Been married to their father for almost 7 years and known them before we were married. I am having a lot of trouble here lately with them. It makes me sick to my stomach because I know they hate me. They were suppose to come over this weekend but she texted her dad and said sorry dad were not coming over bc of what (myname) said. I told the girl that "her mom wasnt being a very good mom if she is letting you to continue with head lice". Maybe that was too harsh but I was trying to mean well and by then I was extremely mad because this isnt the only time she has had it but I had my reasons for saying that to her. First she comes over she tries hiding the fact she has head lice i believe they were told not to tell us. I looked at her one time and she moved her hand quickly from scratching like trying to sneak a scratch. So I checked her head and when I was checking it she then tells me her mom was going to buy shampoo but couldnt bc she didnt have the money. I told her "to tell her mom I said thanks for telling us they had head lice", mind you they had it for 2 weeks before they even got treated. She told her mom in the text that "she is mad at both of us" and something else I cant remember. When they come over here they talk bad about how her mom and boyfriend are doing this and that and I know they do it to us. I dont know what to do its constantly drama the girl is so stinking smart she knows what she is doing to stir up drama and having fun with her mom tormenting me. Bc of that incident and many others her mom gets on a power trip and tells the kids they dont have to come over if they dont have to. So when she says that, that right there is the reason why kids are chosing not to come over here and I tell you why right now: they dont get their way over at our house, we dont let them run wild, we watch very closely and actually be parents, we teach them God and go to church. At their mothers house they do the exact opposite they are everywhere,hardly home bc of mom working all the time (thats not a bad thing she works what is bad is she isnt being mother to those kids and she pawns her kids off every where else as long as she has a babysitter) anywho its driving me crazy cause i have loved her like my own shopped with her, do her nails and makeup, movies, serious woman to girl talks she needs to know (defin stuff her mother isnt having talks with her about) just trying to raise a Godly woman and its just going down hill because she just wants her mother and approval thats what i think but i dont know anymore. So my question is what do I do? I am desperate for my kids to love me because I do love them so much but because of the trouble being caused my heart wants to push her a way and give up. PLEASE I need advice my dear brothers and sister and thank you for reading