I have been single for about.. my entire 27-year old life. Most of my friends are married and have children. And I'm actually happy for them. I think being married is a beautiful thing and I appreciate the hard work that spouses go through for each other and their families. That in itself is something I admire- the hard work. Anyway, so here's my confession: I actually enjoy being single. And..celibate. That's not to say that I don't sometimes feel lonely, unloved, that something must be wrong with me because I'm single (I really hate those types of negative self-talk- or any negative self-talk for that matter-that's the devil's playground...the way you talk to yourself). Anyway. I don't find many blogs online talking about how someone enjoys being single and being celibate (which basically translates to: I want to be single forever.) There's no shame in that. Not everyone wants to be married. But there are a lot that long for marriage and that's great. So if you're single and want to be married, please allow me to share my thoughts and experiences...perhaps, a positive perspective on the beauty of being single.
1: You have more time to spend with God. You can spend hours on end singing to worship songs, praying, and reading His Word without much distraction.
2: You have more freedom to travel to that local place or maybe a far-away place without consulting anyone or making sure both schedules work out and making sure that the other person wants to go to that place.
3: You can spend as much time with your friends and family as you want and have a blast and create deeper, richer friendships and stronger family bonds.
4: You can adopt a pet without having to consult with anyone first (unless you live with your parents/relatives/guardian still).
5: You have more time to learn new things like a new language or a hobby like crochet.
6: Probably have less stress overall. I can't tell you how many times I hear couples complain of how busy they are and how sleep deprived they are and how their children kept them up at night...etc. Don't get me wrong, having a family is a beautiful blessing. It obviously takes a lot of time and work.
7: I can be in my jammies all day without having to care about my appearance.
8: I can have more time and freedom to try new things like skiing.
9: I don't have to worry about unfaithfulness.
10: I can dress that way I want without having to impress anyone.
11: I don't have to hear any nagging/complaining from a partner.
12: I can have a movie marathon of what I want to watch.
this list can go on and on, but I think you get the picture. Being single can be a great thing. I personally enjoy it. I don't know about you. And maybe you don't agree with my list. But this list also helps me to appreciate and remember the beauty of being single and some of the blessings that we take for granted.
1: You have more time to spend with God. You can spend hours on end singing to worship songs, praying, and reading His Word without much distraction.
2: You have more freedom to travel to that local place or maybe a far-away place without consulting anyone or making sure both schedules work out and making sure that the other person wants to go to that place.
3: You can spend as much time with your friends and family as you want and have a blast and create deeper, richer friendships and stronger family bonds.
4: You can adopt a pet without having to consult with anyone first (unless you live with your parents/relatives/guardian still).
5: You have more time to learn new things like a new language or a hobby like crochet.
6: Probably have less stress overall. I can't tell you how many times I hear couples complain of how busy they are and how sleep deprived they are and how their children kept them up at night...etc. Don't get me wrong, having a family is a beautiful blessing. It obviously takes a lot of time and work.
7: I can be in my jammies all day without having to care about my appearance.
8: I can have more time and freedom to try new things like skiing.
9: I don't have to worry about unfaithfulness.
10: I can dress that way I want without having to impress anyone.
11: I don't have to hear any nagging/complaining from a partner.
12: I can have a movie marathon of what I want to watch.
this list can go on and on, but I think you get the picture. Being single can be a great thing. I personally enjoy it. I don't know about you. And maybe you don't agree with my list. But this list also helps me to appreciate and remember the beauty of being single and some of the blessings that we take for granted.