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Does inappropriate contentography count as adultery when we are discussing grounds for divorce?
snoochface said:Matthew 5:27-2827 Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: 28 But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.
Matthew 5:31-3231 It hath been said, Whosoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: 32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
These verses are right on the heels of each other in the same lesson Jesus was teaching. I think that's significant.
northstar said:Yes, but in the second quote, Jesus was talking about divorcing for 'fornication', not adultery...
The words in Greek are different. 'Mocheia' means adultery, and the word in the second quote is 'inappropriate contenteia' very definitely meaning fornication, not adultery...
searle29678 said:What qualifies as fornication? Self gratification while lusting after another woman? I don't quite understand what the word includes.
searle29678 said:Well, the history is....
We have fought about inappropriate content and he had sworn to do away with it in the house. I can help him with drugs and things but inappropriate content I just don't understand. Today I found out my satellite bill is through the roof because of him ordering movies.
I made a decision today to move out. I found a place and I'm going to look at it now. Not because I want a divorce, but because this relationship is just unhealthy and we both need to get it together.
Ergo, many (most?) married women are then in a moral / Biblical position to divorce their husbands, as I dare say most of us husbands have had sexual thoughts or fantasies that qualifies as adulterous.Addicted2~Jesus said:I could personaly careless bout what "legally" defines anythin, I don't subscribe to mans laws, I'm under a higher power an yes while we are to obey mans laws etc if it were grounds for divorce I personnaly think that qualifies.
andry said:Ergo, many (most?) married women are then in a moral / Biblical position to divorce their husbands, as I dare say most of us husbands have had sexual thoughts or fantasies that qualifies as adulterous.
What stops the women from divorcing us then? Or is physical adultery more sinful?
I'm not disagreeing with you.Addicted2~Jesus said:I don't reckon this is th place to have this particular discussion, but th bible also says to be reconciled to ones husband/ spouse an I figure it's up to th gal to decide wether she wants to divorce er not, I don't think anythin says she cain't even for men havin fantasies an what not, let's call th kettle black your bound to be right when ya say a most if not all men have had fantasies an what not an what does that make us? Adulterous in our hearts. Kinda stings a bit huh? It's each of our responsibilites to deal wit this sorta thin on our own wit God.
searle29678 said:Does inappropriate contentography count as adultery when we are discussing grounds for divorce?
SirKenin said:inappropriate contentography is only grounds for divorce if you can prove that your husband is looking at it with lust in his heart. There is no legitimate argument against inappropriate content that I can think of off the top of my head, but there is a very legitimate argument against lust. Jesus himself clarified that if you look at another woman with lust you are committing adultery. I think there is a fine line there, and your husband is going to be hard pressed to prove that lust wasn't involved.
In a Court of Law, however, you would have a brutal time proving it. You would have to settle for irreconcilable differences with no chance for reconciliation.
All that said, are you sure you're not just looking for excuses to get rid of this guy and leave your conscience free so you can remarry?
redwing030 said:Wouldn't him gratifying himself kinda show the lust??
SirKenin said:No, I don't think so at all. I can gratify myself, and have, so to speak without any lust whatsoever. To say that it *can* be a component does not equate to *is* necessarily.
jaimegerise said:Well, if he's looking at inappropriate content while gratifying himself...I'd have to say that there's some level of lust there...otherwise, he wouldn't need to look at the inappropriate content in order to gratify himself....
IMHO
SirKenin said:A pair of boobs on a monitor is all it takes.