Why is it that you can't just tell a girl that you have a crush on her?

[p60]

Why is it that you can't just go up to a girl and tell her you have a crush on her, or that you like her,
or why can't you just tell a lot of other people that you like her?

Like I want to... but there's this quelling uneasiness inside that prevents me from doing so. Why is this?

 

[Gutierrez]

Yeah, I'm suffering from the same thing at the moment. It's called "fear of rejection."

 

[danielb]

"fear of rejection" or being venerable to being hurt/rejected.

 

[Jack_Racz]

Oh I feel your pain...

 

[the_man]

Why is it that you can't just go up to a girl and tell her you have a crush on her, or that you like her,
or why can't you just tell a lot of other people that you like her?

Like I want to... but there's this quelling uneasiness inside that prevents me from doing so. Why is this?

You can...you'd just scare her away. We all know it's not that easy, if it were, relationships would happen just like *snaps fingers* that. Now, if someone latches onto you strong and quick, you assume they want something from you. So would she if you go up to her and tell her you have a crush on her/like her. You can talk to her, find out who she really is and after you have more information on her, you can tell her that you like her.

 

[FarFromHome]

Why is it that you can't just go up to a girl and tell her you have a crush on her, or that you like her,
or why can't you just tell a lot of other people that you like her?

Like I want to... but there's this quelling uneasiness inside that prevents me from doing so. Why is this?

I've been suffering from this with the same girl for 2.5 years now. I'm very shy and she is just as shy as I am. The reason I haven't approached her besides being so shy, is that I feel I'm not worthy of any relationship with her. Her walk is what attracted me to her, but she is on a different level. She is who I look to for an example of how to live a Christ honoring life!

 

[p60]

I've been suffering from this with the same girl for 2.5 years now. I'm very shy and she is just as shy as I am. The reason I haven't approached her besides being so shy, is that I feel I'm not worthy of any relationship with her. Her walk is what attracted me to her, but she is on a different level. She is who I look to for an example of how to live a Christ honoring life!

the scary thing is that this is exactly the same situation that I am in.
There is this girl that I really like (who is in another country for the semester)
and she is just so high above me.

She is a near perfect Christian, and she is near perfect in every other way. Infact she's so perfect that it ****es me off. I just wish she had some flaws.

She's been an attractive and popular girl all thru highschool, and is in my college right now, and I think she's been a strong Christian the entire time to! I've seen a girl this blessed be so Godly at the same time.

 

[SmackYouTwice]

Quelling... I like that word. Going to have to look it up in the dictionary. hehe

It goes the same for us ladies... I'm crushin' on a guy and I can't tell him. And it's actually not so much that I can't... I want to make sure it's right... that it's in God's plan for me, for us... cuz once the feelings are expressed, it changes everything. Hopefully for the better, but ya know! I'm content just being friends... and not having the temptation to do something dumb... grr @ Satan! =P It's been really cool lately! Purity is of utmost importance!

 

[Living4Him03]

farfromhome---if she's the kind of girl who is living a christ honoring life and you look to that as an example and others do too, well then by all means that is the kind of girl you wanna date! go for it!

 

[Living4Him03]

appearance is perfect but our hearts are corrupt!

 

[klewlis]

First off, no one is perfect and no one has a "near perfect" walk with God. She is just as human as you, and don't ever forget it (lest you have some unrealistic expectation of her .

Secondly, if you have a good friendship with someone, it shouldn't scare them off to tell them you like them. Your friendship should be able to withstand that even if the interest isn't mutual... so don't be afraid, just go for it! If you don't take the chance you will never know what could have been... but if you hardly know the person then take some time to get to know them first, and then see what happens.

 

[DogBluff]

so don't be afraid, just go for it! QUOTE]

I agree! You've just got to go for it. If you don't, you'll always wonder , "what if?". I think that there's a misconception that guys have more fear of rejection than girls do. That's not true at all! Just always remember that you are just as great as anyone else and if you are indeed rejected when you finally confess your feelings, then it obviously wasn't meant to be.

 

[Katty]

Yep... its never so much that I'm afraid to care about someone else or get my heart and feelings involved... its more how I'll be like after its been made known. Ahh.... matters of the heart... love it? hate it? Still deciding

~Katty~

 

[vibrant]

imo, it'd be better just to ask her out, take her out, and show her your feelings by the way you treat her, the way you talk to her, your body language, etc., rather than tell her so pointedly.

 

[Jack_Racz]

imo, it'd be better just to ask her out, take her out, and show her your feelings by the way you treat her, the way you talk to her, your body language, etc., rather than tell her so pointedly.

That is no simple task.

 

[FarFromHome]

That is no simple task.

So true...

 

[Mr.Cheese]

Once you get to the point that your sanity is at stake, you'll be able to tell her.

 

[Echoes Peak]

Once you get to the point that your sanity is at stake, you'll be able to tell her.

Amused once again..yet so true.

 

[FarFromHome]

Once you get to the point that your sanity is at stake, you'll be able to tell her.

What if you're already insane?

 

[hotknikkels]

mmmmmm... I told my girl and she told me to calm down, so I am getting to know her better, but she is very wise, and guys, I guess I am trying to say, listen to the girls more, they have some good advice... I am waiting, but not sitting on my backside waiting, I am getting to know her much more each day and when it is right, we will start to go out!