The General Mental Health Forum is now a Read Only Forum. As we had two large areas making it difficult for many to find, we decided to combine the Mental Health & the Recovery sections of the forum into Mental Health & Recovery as a whole. Physical Health still remains as it's own area within the entire Recovery area.
If you are having struggles, need support in a particular area that you aren't finding a specific recovery area forum, you may find the General Struggles forum a great place to post. Any any that is related to emotions, self-esteem, insomnia, anger, relationship dynamics due to mental health and recovery and other issues that don't fit better in another forum would be examples of topics that might go there.
If you have spiritual issues related to a mental health and recovery issue, please use the Recovery Related Spiritual Advice forum. This forum is designed to be like Christian Advice, only for recovery type of issues. Recovery being like a family in many ways, allows us to support one another together. May you be blessed today and each day.
Kristen.NewCreation and FreeinChrist
I'm beginning to agree with all of you. A dear friend also wrote this answer to me:
"Spending time in God's word and prayer is healing to me in that the more I learn about Him and how *He* loves me and how *He* views me, the less important it becomes for me to love myself. In other words, His acceptance, forgiveness and love for me is complete. Once I grasp this, the need to forgive or love "self" begins to diminish and eventually just disappears. It is no longer important or necessary. I realize this is not healing in the way the world teaches it- it directly contradicts a lot of psychology, which is "man's" truth, not necessarily God's truth."
I think I've strayed away from reading and accepting God's Word in the past month. It IS much easier to just beat up on myself and stay stuck. But guilt does no good. Neither does focusing on the pain and "what ifs."
Thank you all for offering your words of encouragement and for reminding me to keep looking toward God.
Cindy
When do you start liking yourself?
I've been so mean to myself. I repeat over and over "I hate me." I don't take care of me. I get angry and punish myself mentally and physically. I don't listen to my pain, reach out or openly grieve when I need to cry.
When does the self-punishment end?
God has forgiven me.
Why is it so hard to forgive myself?
This isn't what God wants.
There must be some need to victimize myself over and over. Otherwise I would forgive myself, right?
Cindy
Sometimes it's really hard to trust God when you find out that some of the people you thought were friends set out to hurt you terribly.
Thank you tfg for being kind to me.
Cindy
You know what though? When you just find out that people who you thought were friends, who asked for forgiveness in a general way such as "for whatever I might have done", then you find out exactly the hurtful things they've done, it just hurts. It's like they didn't really confess; they just smoothed it over with another lie. By not admitting the exact nature of their wrongs, they are still lying and hurting. That in itself is also hurtful.
I'm finding out that the betrayal of people who you thought were friends hurts worse than people downright hating you and hurting you.
It's very hard to turn the other cheek because the pain hurts so much. Maybe down the road, but I found out again something just last night about another deliberate hurtful thing that person did against me on a public internet forum. It will take awhile for forgiveness. It's like ripping off a bandage again over a healing wound.
I do hear you though. I'm just being very human-like right now. I have to admit that I was furious last night and wrote many hurtful things on my blog. After calming down this morning, I just got to the root of it. I'm not angry so I edited my blog. I'm hurt. Very hurt.
I'll ask God to help me with forgiveness.
Thanks for listening.
Cindy