Agreed that domestic violence is more than physical; it also has aspects of emotional, financial, social and spiritual abuse.
I have no doubt that there are abused people who fall into that dynamic from a place of woundedness. But to blame them for their place in that seems to me more likely to perpetuate the problem rather than help to break the cycle.
Pretending they are not a cooperative partner, in many cases, does not help the situation. Having worked with many families involved in domestic violence, I cannot say that a victim is necessarily innocent. This is especially the case in that victims that tolerate abuse become perpetuators of abuse when it occurs in front of their children.
If women typically seek harm, to deal with their wounds, as they observed in their families, and likewise, men typically harm to deal with their wounds, the notion of victims and perpetrators becomes counterproductive.
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