I am sorry if it comes off as insulting, but I had to put my feelers out. To see what kind of response I would get.
I'm not sure why you're framing this as a celibacy thing, at least, towards the end of your write-up you are. I admire that. But were not talking about celibacy, we're talking finding a great person to add to your life, and a Christian not wanting this ..>I personally think, is the anti-thesis of that.
I can get it if you're into the priesthood or nun.
You mean there are no single men in your church you'd consider? Among your Christian circles?
There's this one woman, late 50s that I know. A good friend. We tried dating a couple of times , well, went out on dates, and the only reason she won't go down the path to date me seriously is that the fact our age differences were too great. When it was like just here just being 8 years older than me. Which is kind of odd as I didn't find that age difference to be that big of a deal. A little too overly picky, but it was her choice. But she really wants to remain friends with me, so I'm okay with that.
But I guess I wasn't a "decent option" for her, and we are aligned in everyway. it just bugged here I was too young. I'm finding more and more women to be too picky for their own good, even in secular circles. Yes, not tall enough, if he's balled, not built like a brick, not making 6 figures, etc. That's also taken into consideration for some. Usually the Christian women are nice enough to keep that to themselves, so they phrase it in a nice way.
She's never been married, and I think her last long term relationship was over 20 years ago.
Now, she's not wanting to stay single, as she's expressed really wanting marriage.