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Question:
I am dealing with a lot of turmoil with my friends. The husband is a faithful Lutheran in so much that he attends church at nearly every service, he knows the doctrines and believes them, he catechizes his family ...
And yet he crushes the whole family so harshly with the law that it is breaking the family apart.
He openly admits that he does not love the daughters that come from a previous marriage (which he has raised since they were around 7 years old), he says that they turn his stomach and has a hard time looking at them.
He is a finger pointer who judges all those whom he does not like. He makes you feel miserable if he doesn't like you and is rude as well as ungentlemanly at all times.
He blames his wife for all his anger, he blames her for the way the daughters from a previous marriage has turned out and he shows no mercy or tenderness to her.
She comes from a harsh background, divorced her first husband to save her life from his physical abuse, her second husband died from the effects of a car accident and had a total of 2 daughter from each marriage. She has a total of 7 children in all.
The daughters are not considered by the husband to be his even though he adopted that 2 daughters who came from the husband that died. When asked, he says he has 3 children. He has emotionally disowned the 4 daughters and requests that my girlfriend rarely sees them and requests that she does not treat her grandchildren as if they are hers.
My question.
Because their marriage is just about over. Is it reasonable for a pastor to put a sining man like this under the minor ban considering his unrepentance?
I am dealing with a lot of turmoil with my friends. The husband is a faithful Lutheran in so much that he attends church at nearly every service, he knows the doctrines and believes them, he catechizes his family ...
And yet he crushes the whole family so harshly with the law that it is breaking the family apart.
He openly admits that he does not love the daughters that come from a previous marriage (which he has raised since they were around 7 years old), he says that they turn his stomach and has a hard time looking at them.
He is a finger pointer who judges all those whom he does not like. He makes you feel miserable if he doesn't like you and is rude as well as ungentlemanly at all times.
He blames his wife for all his anger, he blames her for the way the daughters from a previous marriage has turned out and he shows no mercy or tenderness to her.
She comes from a harsh background, divorced her first husband to save her life from his physical abuse, her second husband died from the effects of a car accident and had a total of 2 daughter from each marriage. She has a total of 7 children in all.
The daughters are not considered by the husband to be his even though he adopted that 2 daughters who came from the husband that died. When asked, he says he has 3 children. He has emotionally disowned the 4 daughters and requests that my girlfriend rarely sees them and requests that she does not treat her grandchildren as if they are hers.
My question.
Because their marriage is just about over. Is it reasonable for a pastor to put a sining man like this under the minor ban considering his unrepentance?