What is your Love Language?

[VivDaGurl]

I come across this interesting philoshopy about your love language. How do you want to be loved and how to express their love for you? Everybody have their own ways of showing their love and the way they receive love can be very different too. It depends on individual and how the love tank can be filled. Oh yes, it's not only talking about people whom are in a romantic relationship but it's also referring to those whom are still single or with children and talking about their parents, not forgetting about how to show love to everyone else too.

Alright, this is what I read about what Gary Chapman, a psychologist came up with after dealing with so many people:

Words of Affirmation
Some people just live happily when they've given a compliment, a tender word of endearment or an uplifting encouragement. In order to show that you've been loved, it's just a nice thing to have someone affirming you with the words, may it be something really simple, he/she will feel good deep inside.

Quality Time
You just enjoy having someone (the special one) around you, spending time with you, not to be interrupted with any other things.

Receiving/Giving Gifts
Receiving a very simple little gift will make you feel accepted, loved in a very special way.

Acts of Service
Just do something, a very simple thing for him/her, you'll feel great!

Physical Touch
Some people I know out there are kinda touchy but, that's how they are, they like to be touched to receive love from the other party. Not much words or gifts, but the little touch of anywhere brings out a wonderful message to you.

Some may have more than one and some may have only one. What is yours and what do you think? Or perhaps, you have more items to add on to this list?

 

[TriptychR]

I'm familiar with this philosophy, and I think it can be quite effective. If you look at successful relationships, most of the couples in them fulfill each others' love language needs, probably without even knowing it!

My language is words of affirmation, by the way.

 

[fieldmouse3]

I think mine is physical touch, which is funny, because I'm not a very huggy person, especially with those I don't know very well. In a romantic relationship, though, I think it would be different.

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

I have used all of those things and in past relationships, all of those things were used to express feelings for me, too. I guess the least important things for making me feel loved are gifts or acts of service and the most important is quality time. In past relationships, my primary ways of expressing myself have been through words, touch, quality time, and acts of service.

 

[stormgade4]

Mine is "words of affirmation". This one works for me because I enjoy encouraging others and I like receiving it as well.

My gf (at the time) made me read the book a couple years ago.

 

[joyouspirit]

For me, important are the words of affirmation. The least would be the gifts.
Then quality time and the physical touch would come in, too.

God bless! Nice post.

 

[f U z ! o N]

physical touch is my highest followed by a tie with quality time and words of affirmation

 

[SarahlovesChrist]

I'm glad you brought this up because a Bible study of mine was going to talk about this . After reading these choices and knowing myself, I would have to say a mixture of words of affirmation and physical touch, because I'm a cuddle bug haha.

God Bless

 

[TriptychR]

I think mine is physical touch, which is funny, because I'm not a very huggy person, especially with those I don't know very well. In a romantic relationship, though, I think it would be different.

It's good to keep in mind that this isn't meant to apply solely to a romantic relationship, however, but also to interactions with co-workers, family and friends. I'm not saying that one of your languages can't be physical touch, but perhaps you have another one that equally matters to you in non-romantic relationships.

 

[Miles]

My love language is a combination of words of affirmation and quality time.

 

[maze77]

I'm high maintenance, so I need all of those things, lol. Just kidding, I have dated people like that though.
I'm with quality time, and some acts of service.

 

[TravellingGrace]

quality time and physical touch are pretty close for me... although words of affirmation are good too.

 

[KarateCowboy]

Summoning Ninjas
You prefer to show your affection through arcane displays of power and might. For example: chanting ancienct Japanese and summoning flames from the ground and ninjas flying through the air with swords.

 

[radhead]

Quality time is numero uno for me.

I also like physical touch. Someone gives me an encouraging touch at just the right time. But I'm not very good at giving love that way. I wish I was. I would like to have a female who is a touchy person.

 

[awashinlove]

Ah, The Five Love Languages - I and my relationships have so benefitted from The Five Love Languages of Singles, Children, and the original addition in that it's in the forefront of my mind how others are responding to what I do and how I can best learn to love them and even learn to recognize love through the ways they speak it.

In the little quiz provided at the end of each book I scored pretty evenly across the board - which is quite accurate for me, especially after reading. But I primarily speak gifts and receive quality time.

 

[Matt.9:22]

I come across this interesting philoshopy about your love language. How do you want to be loved and how to express their love for you? Everybody have their own ways of showing their love and the way they receive love can be very different too. It depends on individual and how the love tank can be filled. Oh yes, it's not only talking about people whom are in a romantic relationship but it's also referring to those whom are still single or with children and talking about their parents, not forgetting about how to show love to everyone else too.

Alright, this is what I read about what Gary Chapman, a psychologist came up with after dealing with so many people:

Words of Affirmation
Some people just live happily when they've given a compliment, a tender word of endearment or an uplifting encouragement. In order to show that you've been loved, it's just a nice thing to have someone affirming you with the words, may it be something really simple, he/she will feel good deep inside.

Quality Time
You just enjoy having someone (the special one) around you, spending time with you, not to be interrupted with any other things.

Receiving/Giving Gifts
Receiving a very simple little gift will make you feel accepted, loved in a very special way.

Acts of Service
Just do something, a very simple thing for him/her, you'll feel great!

Physical Touch
Some people I know out there are kinda touchy but, that's how they are, they like to be touched to receive love from the other party. Not much words or gifts, but the little touch of anywhere brings out a wonderful message to you.

Some may have more than one and some may have only one. What is yours and what do you think? Or perhaps, you have more items to add on to this list?

1-highest 5-lowest

1) Quality time- I like spending time with people I like even if we don't talk or really do anything.

2)Words of affirmation- Hey, everybody likes to be told nice things.

3) Acts of service- I like being helped out; I like helping my friends out.

4) Receiving/ giving gifts- Meh. you can't buy love.

5)Physical touch- keep your hands to yourself pal!

And that's the way I feel.

 

[lunalinda]

Hmmm...I'd say my languages are Acts of Service, Quality Time, and Physical Touch, pretty much in that order. It's actually crazy the things I do for people, especially the ones I'm involved with.

 

[Tink]

My love language is physical touch followed VERY VERY closely by words of affirmation.

Love!

 

[Periann]

I think quality time and physical touch would be pretty much at the top of the list with me. I think acts of service would be on the bottom of the list, I can do it myself thank you very much.

I wonder if there's anyone who would admit that giving/recieving gifts would be their primary love language? LOL, I dont think anyone would ever admit it!

 

[Tink]

I think quality time and physical touch would be pretty much at the top of the list with me. I think acts of service would be on the bottom of the list, I can do it myself thank you very much.

I wonder if there's anyone who would admit that giving/recieving gifts would be their primary love language? LOL, I dont think anyone would ever admit it!

I wondered that myself! I like getting gifts, but that fades in comparison to the rest of the options.

Love!