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I know two couples that are now split up, one in my church the other in my family.
I'm just wondering, as don't really know much about it, what happens when people get divorced.
Is it, they live apart for more than 2 years, then they are officially separated?
Does that mean all the stuff they shared gets split up?
What about the children? Do most couples that divorce still live close by each other and actually see each other? Or is it too awkward. Does one pay money to the other?
The couple I know in church still live in the same house, but they are separated. (upstairs and down) Does that just mean, they don't share the same bed? At what point is a couple considered divorced/unmarried? When you can't stand to share the same room any longer? Although many married couples do sleep separately (on account of snoring).
I get confused by divorced couples. All that to-ing and fro-ing with children, and settlements and such. I did used to flat with one lady who had two children and they went with their dad half the time and half with their mum. But their parents didn't even marry in the first place...so I'm just wondering what the difference is. I don't really ask what happened as of course they don't want to talk about it. But maybe if you been through one and know what happens or your parents divorced could you share. I mean how do I talk to the children who are affected, do they actually know what really happened or do parents keep it hush from them? With one of the boys I did ask him once about it and he said they just got used to it, and it was odd at first because everyone elses' parents were married.
I think its hard to say as often theirs adultery involved and...children are traumatised by that I think, to know their parents were unfaithful to each other. I remember talking to a girl and I think she always had to explain her parents situation and she would be totally honest and say 'my dad had an affair so my parents split up'. (But she was adult). I'm just wondering if young children get told why their parents divorce or its just that they can't stand each other anymore.
thanks for responding if this topic is too uncomfortable for you give it a miss. Please no judgments. I am not married so..this is not my issue, just on how to relate to children affected and how to deal with adults that going through it. Is it rude to ask why?
I'm just wondering, as don't really know much about it, what happens when people get divorced.
Is it, they live apart for more than 2 years, then they are officially separated?
Does that mean all the stuff they shared gets split up?
What about the children? Do most couples that divorce still live close by each other and actually see each other? Or is it too awkward. Does one pay money to the other?
The couple I know in church still live in the same house, but they are separated. (upstairs and down) Does that just mean, they don't share the same bed? At what point is a couple considered divorced/unmarried? When you can't stand to share the same room any longer? Although many married couples do sleep separately (on account of snoring).
I get confused by divorced couples. All that to-ing and fro-ing with children, and settlements and such. I did used to flat with one lady who had two children and they went with their dad half the time and half with their mum. But their parents didn't even marry in the first place...so I'm just wondering what the difference is. I don't really ask what happened as of course they don't want to talk about it. But maybe if you been through one and know what happens or your parents divorced could you share. I mean how do I talk to the children who are affected, do they actually know what really happened or do parents keep it hush from them? With one of the boys I did ask him once about it and he said they just got used to it, and it was odd at first because everyone elses' parents were married.
I think its hard to say as often theirs adultery involved and...children are traumatised by that I think, to know their parents were unfaithful to each other. I remember talking to a girl and I think she always had to explain her parents situation and she would be totally honest and say 'my dad had an affair so my parents split up'. (But she was adult). I'm just wondering if young children get told why their parents divorce or its just that they can't stand each other anymore.
thanks for responding if this topic is too uncomfortable for you give it a miss. Please no judgments. I am not married so..this is not my issue, just on how to relate to children affected and how to deal with adults that going through it. Is it rude to ask why?