Not sure if this is the right thread...forgive me if it's not.
Hi, I'm new here. I'm a born-again Christian from Florida. It'll be a year soon since I got divorced and I am not currently dating anyone but I am curious about premarital sex after a divorce.
My story in a nutshell is that I 'waited' until marriage and well my [ex]husband ended up having "issues" in the bedroom. Imagine waiting 20+ years for the "one" and then these issues arise. Intimacy is such an important part of marriage and not being able to express yourself in that way was just awful. This is not the reason for the divorce by the way (he actually ended upbeing unfaithful to me - LONG story).
Bottom line: Having been through that and being so disappointed, I can't help but want to "test drive the car before I buy it". I still believe in love and want to get married again and have a family. But the idea of something like that happening to me again frightens me. I mean who knows maybe the next person I meet will want to wait regardless of what I feel but I can't help but be apprehensive. What does the bible really say about premarital sex? Is it just legalism? I understand "sleeping around" is unacceptable (and even unhealthy) but once you know this is the person you will spend all of your life with...perhaps after getting engaged, would it be OK? Please don't criticize, I just need honest advice.
Thanks in advance for your comments!
Hi, I'm new here. I'm a born-again Christian from Florida. It'll be a year soon since I got divorced and I am not currently dating anyone but I am curious about premarital sex after a divorce.
My story in a nutshell is that I 'waited' until marriage and well my [ex]husband ended up having "issues" in the bedroom. Imagine waiting 20+ years for the "one" and then these issues arise. Intimacy is such an important part of marriage and not being able to express yourself in that way was just awful. This is not the reason for the divorce by the way (he actually ended upbeing unfaithful to me - LONG story).
Bottom line: Having been through that and being so disappointed, I can't help but want to "test drive the car before I buy it". I still believe in love and want to get married again and have a family. But the idea of something like that happening to me again frightens me. I mean who knows maybe the next person I meet will want to wait regardless of what I feel but I can't help but be apprehensive. What does the bible really say about premarital sex? Is it just legalism? I understand "sleeping around" is unacceptable (and even unhealthy) but once you know this is the person you will spend all of your life with...perhaps after getting engaged, would it be OK? Please don't criticize, I just need honest advice.
Thanks in advance for your comments!