I have been divorced for 13 years. I have confident that it was the best option given the circumstances. We don't have much contact with each other and I prefer it that way, except his lack of involvement was difficult for the kids.
This year my youngest turned 18. That means child support ended. Which is fine. That's how it's supposed to be. But I've become rattled for other reasons.
I suddenly feel as though I am on my own, as if I haven't been for the last 13 years. I feel very vulnerable and like our situation is precarious. I feel like my youngest son and I are completely alone in the world. I have been worried about every possible thing going wrong and having the worst possible outcome, with no one to help. This makes me very afraid for my son in particular because he has some disabilities.
The child support wasn't even that much, so I don't believe that is the reason. I think it is the notion that my ex no longer has any legal responsibility, no forced connection to us.
Changes in my job and a reduction in wages has contributed to all my worrying. I spend most days fighting anxiety and a sense of helplessness. Even though I am working two jobs now, the second job more than makes up for the loss child support, my kid is looking for a job, and I'm looking for other opportunities as well, I fear the worst. It is exhausting and even depressing to be so anxious all the time.
This year my youngest turned 18. That means child support ended. Which is fine. That's how it's supposed to be. But I've become rattled for other reasons.
I suddenly feel as though I am on my own, as if I haven't been for the last 13 years. I feel very vulnerable and like our situation is precarious. I feel like my youngest son and I are completely alone in the world. I have been worried about every possible thing going wrong and having the worst possible outcome, with no one to help. This makes me very afraid for my son in particular because he has some disabilities.
The child support wasn't even that much, so I don't believe that is the reason. I think it is the notion that my ex no longer has any legal responsibility, no forced connection to us.
Changes in my job and a reduction in wages has contributed to all my worrying. I spend most days fighting anxiety and a sense of helplessness. Even though I am working two jobs now, the second job more than makes up for the loss child support, my kid is looking for a job, and I'm looking for other opportunities as well, I fear the worst. It is exhausting and even depressing to be so anxious all the time.
