*warm fuzzies*

[goldenviolet]

everyone is different, everyone needs something different.... what works for one, may not have the same help for another. remember these things: these things are for everyone.

1.) someone at home needs to know about these issues with you. there are many ways to get help. i phoned the national hotline numbers to find out... that they will help you with other numbers too. toll free, or in your area.

2.) Christ has a plan for you, but you won't know it unless you are in the word of God, and seeking His will for you.

3.) fellowship and prayer among the brothern is commanded for our own good.

4.) if you mess up, give it to Jesus and move on.... one thing at a time, one goal at a time, if you fall, get back up... ... focus on what you are doing right.

i want you to know that i pray for you everyday. you can get through this....... love and blessings, dee

 

[Bevlina]

I like that post Dee!

 

[WhereareyouGod?]

Dee,

you are such an awesome person, you never fail to make me smile even if its just reading something you have written to someone else. if you ever need anything just let me know,

Love n Hugs

Lizzie

 

[goldenviolet]

hee hee

Philippians 4:6-9

Be weary for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

Those things, which ye have both learned, and received, and heard, and seen in me, do: and the God of peace shall be with you.

 

[Bevlina]

Beautiful dee ... and so is puppy! So this is the little one that's been running around the Forum? I had him in my pm box too!

 

[goldenviolet]

cute Bevlina ............

hee hee

who ate all the kibbles?!

 

[goldenviolet]

A FOUNTAIN OF PEACE....
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SATAN TOLD ME, “DARK IS YOUR HOME”,

AND AT ONE TIME I LISTENED.

GOD’S WORD WHISPERED IN MY EAR…

“LIVE IN ME… I’LL SET YOU FREE!”

THIS TIME I BELIEVED.

SATAN CALLED ME, "YOU SINNER!”

GOD’S WORD GENTLY SAID,

“YOU’VE BEEN SET FREE”

THIS TIME I REMEMBERED…

I KNOW WHO IS THE FATHER OF LIES!

“YOU SINNED AGAIN, AND NOW YOU’RE MINE!”

SATAN DANCED AROUND MY HEAD.

GOD’S WORD CUT HIM SHARP LIKE A SWORD…

I KNOW I’M NOT HIS PRISONER ANY MORE.

LOOKING PAST THE PIT OF DISPARE,

REPLACED BY PEACE IT’S NO LONGER THERE.

GOD STAYED BY ME, AND WHISPERED IN MY HEART,

AND WHEN I BEGAN TO LISTEN…

HIS WISDOM I BEGAN TO IMPART.

SATAN CAN NO LONGER TALK TO ME,

FOR I NO LONGER LISTEN.

I KNOW I’M NOT HIS PRISONER ANY MORE.

LOOKING PAST THE PIT OF DISPARE,

IT’S NO LONGER THERE…

IT’S TRANSFORMED BY GOD’S LOVE…

A FOUNTAIN OF PEACE…

ONLY THE PEACE FOUND IN HIS CARE.​

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I wrote this the day I realized I was healed. I knew that Christ had walked with me through all that pain and confusion... I realized that I was finally strong enough to stop. my heart filled with such joy. I understood that He was there the whole time... feeding me little bits of love and preparing me for the spiritual battle to end my SI thoughts and depression. this poem was written out of my joy. I never want to forget this moment.

​

 

[Bevlina]

Dee, you are a beautiful poet. So filled with love and grace. You have been blessed and are a wonderful example of just what God can do for those who SI.

 

[goldenviolet]

the Lord has His hands on you because you asked.
you don't need to be perfect.... you need to be willing...

by taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time.
PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time!
if you fail, get back up and start again...
taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time. PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time!
if you fail, get back up and start again....
taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time. PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time!
if you fail, get back up and start again....
taking one accomplishment at a time. going from a goal of one day at a time to one issue at a time. PRACTICE changing your thinking. Practice …growing… one day at a time!
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[Bevlina]

And, that is so true Dee. So very true. It's one step at a time.

 

[goldenviolet]

safety plan.........
who should you go to first on your safety plan? a parent, therepist, hotline, or other? have you taken time to write down a safety plan?
when you notice that you are starting to think and feel destructive, what are your warning signs? knots in your stomache? rushed and confused thinking? negative thoughts? compulsive habits?
once you recognise that you are not feeling too great, you should practice changing your response. this can be an easy activity when you are feeling your best, but might be difficult to practice while not feeling your best. that's ok. everyone needs practice at changing some routines/habits.
activities... talking on the phone to best friend, art, music, a good book,
a favorite movie, computer time, a nice walk, a bubble bath, getting dressed up. watching the clouds, watching the rain.... writing a poem, or song... singing. sipping a soda.... work on making yourself a list of things that fulfill your moods, activities that can comfort you or distract you... or activities that help you release energy or anger.

1. make a list of people who will support you...
2. make a list of activities that fit you...

do you pray about it? a long prayer... a short prayer... "Jesus help me!" ...or..
a written or typed prayer? when you have your list of things to do, and you start having discouraging feelings... start trying things on your list. you might have to force yourself to do them, or force yourself to stay focused on what you choose. once the commitment is there, just practice. maybe you will jump around from on activity to another. maybe you will do great for a certain amount of time then get feeling moody again. maybe you will be too moody to try anything. it's ok. practice. practice to do your best at that moment. practice to do better next time. take a break from what you are doing and go back to it later. no hurry. it's all about what works for you.

this above is called "WISE MIND":
it is the practice of keeping yourself in a state where you are not letting your emotions control your behaviors. and you are reasoning out your responses to do the things you know are best and right for you.

 

[Imani]

thats good...

what if you dont have any one to call... and what if you mostly SI when your in flashbacks or panic attacks... and dont fully know youve done it til after? just wondering if anyone knows what to do... sorry.

Sara

 

[Bevlina]

Never apologise Sara, many folk don't have anyone to call, in Australia there is Lifeline. Have you heard of that one?
And, I'd say that most SI when they have flashbacks or panic attacks.

 

[Imani]

yeh... lifeline and i have a pretty regular relationship. But you never get the same person, and then have to tell everything again, which just makes you feel worse and remember all over again... blah. Its just easier to keep it to yourself really.

Sara

 

[Bevlina]

Then, you have us Sara.

 

[Imani]

thank you for saying that Bev.

Sara

 

[goldenviolet]

this is really a good thing to ask Imani i got this out of a therepy skills class i took... (i'm not a therepist) the skills are for people to practice. they say that no matter what stage of mental health a person is in; that you should always try to focus on what helps you.
things that you just don't get......it's ok what does work for you? to do something after you realize what you are exsperiancing?
maybe you can just think about what i wrote. it is said that after you learn to label your issues, then it becomes easier to focus on the practicing different coping skills.
the biggest part of the whole class... was focusing on yourself. no one can decide what you need better than you. (unless it's in the BIBLE) you are normal for you. don't worry about the things you don't get. be very proud of yourself for trying to do the things you do try. you believe Jesus can save you! you call hotlines! you fellowship online! you care! you have a whole bunch of other qualities we don't know!

i want to tell you all... especially you.... i kept my SI a secret, until i was ready to exsplode. then my family made me feel stupid and crazy. no one cared. i was institutionalized as a teen for around 14 months.... not once did i get a visitor. my family didn't care. when i got older... same thing. i had to pretend until i had so many health problems... it is amazing i am free of it. God is good. He is the God of peace. my life shaped who i am in this way only because i gave my life to Christ.
it doesn't matter where you are.... or how hard it gets to see strait... or how hard it is to believe you can heal... you can.... because you are God's child.
it took me along time to be free of everything. one thing at a time, ok...
one step at a time. one goal to the next. .... Jesus will guide you to where you need to be. you are so special love dee

 

[Imani]

thank you Dee

Sara

 

[goldenviolet]

Stress is a natural response to some situations. Stress is manageable. Recognizing your own warning signs is realizing your limits. When you can identify your limits, then you know what therapy you need. Do you just need to slow down and relax? Do you need prayer? Do you need someone to talk to? Should you distract yourself until you can refocus? Do you need to try all of these? Make a list of unhealthy habits you need to avoid when feeling under stress. Remember that that naming your behavior patterns is the first step to taking control of your feelings. The next step is to practice coping in healthy ways. Then Practice Practice Practice. Focus each time on what you are doing right, the positive pieces of your dealing with any situation. Knowing about the negative Patterns are only to help you label things to see them clearly.
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Distress Tolerance and using “IMPROVE"the moment....

I= imaging; using your thoughts to find a calmer setting and thought.

M= meaning; using your knowledge to find purpose or experience.

P = prayer; letting God take over and give you wisdom.

R = relaxing; finding ways to relieve stress or distract yourself with something healthy until you can refocus.

O = one thing in the moment; we can cause ourselves more distress by lumping our difficulties together. Deal with only what is in this moment.

v= vacation; learn how to take vacations by enjoying something you love. give yourself time to practice getting away in the mist of stress.

E = encouragement; cheerlead yourself! Let your inner thoughts talk to you as if you were talking to someone you love. Talk to yourself how you would like someone to talk to you. Focus on everything positive. Claim God's promises, claim favorite scriptures. Claim your worth.

 

[goldenviolet]

there is so many wonderful things happening here! God has given this forum many blessings. i'm hearing alot of you say that you feel like this forum is your family. i love to see that you are feeling loved and cared about!

James chapter 1

1 James, a servant of God and of the Lord Jesus Christ, to the twelve tribes which are scattered abroad, greeting.
2 My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations;
3 Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience.
4 But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing.
5 If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.
6 But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed.
7 For let not that man think that he shall receive anything of the Lord.
8 A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.
(this means not to exspect anything but exspect every good thing)
9 Let the brother of low degree rejoice in that he is exalted:
10 But the rich, in that he is made low: because as the flower of the grass he shall pass away.
11 For the sun is no sooner risen with a burning heat, but it withereth the grass, and the flower thereof falleth, and the grace of the fashion of it perisheth: so also shall the rich man fade away in his ways.
12 Blessed is the man that endureth temptation: for when he is tried, he shall receive the crown of life, which the Lord hath promised to them that love him.
13 Let no man say when he is tempted, I am tempted of God: for God cannot be tempted with evil, neither tempteth he any man:
14 But every man is tempted, when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed.
15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.
16 Do not err, my beloved brethren.
17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
18 Of his own will begat he us with the word of truth, that we should be a kind of firstfruits of his creatures.
19 Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath:
20 For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God.
21 Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls.
22 But be ye doers of the word, and not hearers only, deceiving your own selves.
23 For if any be a hearer of the word, and not a doer, he is like unto a man beholding his natural face in a glass:
24 For he beholdeth himself, and goeth his way, and straightway forgetteth what manner of man he was.
25 But whoso looketh into the perfect law of liberty, and continueth therein, he being not a forgetful hearer, but a doer of the work, this man shall be blessed in his deed.
26 If any man among you seem to be religious, and bridleth not his tongue, but deceiveth his own heart, this man's religion is vain.
27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.