Stress and your marriage

[heart of peace]

Do you find that you and your spouse rally together and get super tight during times of stress or does the stress cause you to argue more and get more distant with one another?

 

[believetheunseen]

My husband is extremely level headed and logical, so it takes a lot to stress him out. I, on the other hand, freak out about the small things and when it would make more sense for me to be stressed the Lord blesses me with the clear head, so we almost always have one person not under going stress who can calm the other one down

 

[dorig59]

We pull together and get downright clingy to one another in these situations.

 

[Million Pieces]

We tend to scrap a little bit more in times of stress, but it's never been enough to completely ruin us. And believe me... we've had stress!!

We have gotten better in the last half year at supporting each other in stressful situations and working at it together.

 

[hisbloodformysins]

we definitely bicker more!

 

[rppearso]

Thats what we do as well I have a good woman so I can deal with any stressful situation and bring it to resolution becasue I know what she has for me at the end of the day .

We pull together and get downright clingy to one another in these situations.

 

[Dave73]

My wife has this leave me alone and let me get over it attitude to problems. Which is most of the time a good thing ... I don't hear nagging or anything. Give her awhile and she's fine ... you would never know there was a problem between us.

It's aggravating if I think the problem needs to be discussed more ... and I worry about her (is it healthy to do that - will resentment build).

But so far it's worked good and has probably saved us from really getting into it over things that (looking back) wasn't worth the time or effort anyways.

 

[Assisi]

I would say we get closer, we don't bicker.

Interesting Dave, I think I am a little like your wife in this (and I don't know any other women like this). For me, if something annoys me, sometimes I need a bit of time to decide whether or not it's a problem worth getting upset about. Then if it isn't (usually isn't) I let it slide. If it's a problem, or at least, something that has annoyed me often, the time allows me a chance to address it with a level head and look for a solution (something my husband appreciates, these solution focused men!) rather than just having a go at him. Poor hubby though, has to wait in suspense.

 

[Hadassah]

Both.

 

[Dave73]

I would say we get closer, we don't bicker.

Interesting Dave, I think I am a little like your wife in this (and I don't know any other women like this). For me, if something annoys me, sometimes I need a bit of time to decide whether or not it's a problem worth getting upset about. Then if it isn't (usually isn't) I let it slide. If it's a problem, or at least, something that has annoyed me often, the time allows me a chance to address it with a level head and look for a solution (something my husband appreciates, these solution focused men!) rather than just having a go at him. Poor hubby though, has to wait in suspense.

Well she's the first woman I've known to be like that. At first I didn't know how to take it ... did she need time to "plot her revenge" against me I would think lol. It really works out best for both of us ... allows us each to cool down. The later in the day when she does want to discuss it she's calm and collected. I on the other hand have gone from raging mad to "what were we arguing about?". I'm sure it has saved us both from saying things we would no doubt regret later.

Your husband is a lucky man.

 

[Hosannainthehighest]

it depends on what the source of the stress is...if it is affecting one of us seriously, we usually hash it out alone and then come back together when we feel better...if it's something that affects both of us i try and find a solution and he listens to his ipod lol....then he lets me chatter for a while about the problem and he tries to make out with me, so either way i guess we deal with things seperately and then come together

 

[snoochface]

Both.

That's my response too (I couldn't vote). We do bicker more, but we know that we're bickering because we're on edge so we tend to make up faster, understand more readily, forgive more easily, and are definitely closer to each other as a result of the stress we're under.

 

[myanchor]

We've done both. But the most extreme stress, like when our son had his face torn open by grandma's dog at 21 months welded us together as we helped him through the infection, surgeries and night terrors.

 

[Kingssman]

stress has done both in our relationship. I love how it bonds us together, fear how it increases our bickering.

God places a lot of challenges in our lives through marriage. At times I wish life was a little more stress free, but then it would be boring.

I do thank god that stress is managed and logic prevails.

 

[FatherHaveMercy]

we do both it depends on the situation. somnetimes we fight an others we pull 2gether