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I didn't know that toddlers touch. If they do it wouldn't be sinful because they aren't at the age of reason.
I think that even teens may touch without much culpability--i.e. they are not very responsible for their actions-- since their emotions may not be adequately connected with their reason, and especially if the've been taught that masturbation is fine.
Likewise with any emotions. Anger, for example. Some people take some time to learn how to integrate their feelings of rage and respond appropriately. In the meantime they may do some bad things without really choosing to do so freely
As far as Pediatricians, Psychologists, and Educators favoring masturbation... I don't see why that makes masturbation morally acceptable.
Toddlers are naturally curious about their bodies and begin to explore them; then they realize that certain areas and touches feel pleasurable they repeat the action. http://www.babycenter.com/0_masturbation_11558.bc
Pediatricians, psychologists and educators are knowledgeable about what behavior is normal, appropriate, healthy, and beneficial to children. What does or does not constitute what's morally acceptable varies by culture and beliefs. Last month a a 20-year-old woman died an agonizing and unnecessary death by drowning because her father prevented lifeguards from rescuing her from the waters when she was in distress. They could have saved her and they tried to, but he intervened because he didn't want her to be "dishonored" by unrelated men touching her. To him, it was preferable for her to die an "honorable" death in her youth than for his code of sexual morality to be broken by allowing rescuers to save her.
You and the Catholic Church are also not the universal arbitrators of what is morally acceptable, nor are you the only ones who have the right to speak for all Christians as many of us disagree with you on this matter.
No, the Bible doesn't explicitly condemn a number of things which are wrong, including marital rape and abortion. But marital rape and abortion are still extremely wrong.
The Canon of the Bible isn't in the Bible either, and many other doctrines also are not explicit in Scripture--which says to hold fast to the oral traditions and obey the leaders of the Church-- so I don't see how that argument works.
Clearly, the Bible teaches us to be pure and not engage in impurity.
Again, the oral traditions and teachings have varied and evolved throughout the ages. For centuries the Catholic church believed left-handedness was sinful, and that people who persisted in using their left hand were servants of the devil. They also believed that females needed to segregate themselves from their families and society during menstruation because they were unclean. The infamous Magdalene Laundries operated by the Catholic church harshly unwed young women, some of whom were the victims of rape and incest, as punishment for their fortification and coerced them in giving their babies away for adoption. I respect the Vatican on many matters, but I feel like there needs to be vigorous disagreement with them on some. I also do not think non-Catholics should be compelled to follow the Catholic teachings.
All humans are fallible and finite, and I'm far more interested in what the Bible states and what I believe are God's intentions. To make the argument that something not in the Bible is morally unacceptable simply because of tradition is incredibly flawed thinking to me. As for what is and is not impure, there have been so many varied beliefs. Personally I believe in purity of the heart.
I don't want to impose anything on anyone. I just want children and all of us to find true peace.
And yet you've made repeated statements to the effect of wanting to impose your views of sexual morality on sex education and the treatment of others who act in a way that is not in accordance to your beliefs. You've stated that teens who've engaged in private sexual activity should have that made known not just to their parents but to their public communities, without realizing how traumatizing and humiliating such an action would be. There have been numerous teenage girls who've committed suicide because they've been shamed publicly for private activities relating to sexuality (not specifically to sex in all cases.)
I think it was inappropriate to compare me to JimBob Duggar who screamed at his kid for masturbating and then abusively disciplined him, called my attitude "strange" and said that thinking masturbation is wrong is "grossly ignorant".
First of, I didn't compare your actions or your personality to Jim Bob Duggar's, and it's inaccurate and histrionic for you to repeatedly state that I did. I specifically wrote about how your attitude regarding masturbation as impure and immoral reminded me of Jim Bob's Duggars attitude about it. That belief fueled his reaction to his son, and his cruel treatment of him. If Jim Bob did not also think that it's impure, immoral, and sinful, do you think he would have punished and publicly shamed his son for it?
It was not inappropriate for me to express my own belief that your attitude is very strange. It's accurate to describe it as grossly ignorant. I stand behind that and do not apologize, but I am sorry if your feelings were unduly hurt.
I know very good, intelligent, Christian people who would treat you very well and whom I think you would respect who also agree that masturbation is wrong.
There are good Christian people who believe that the universe is geocentric. I have a lovely friend who believes there were baby dinosaurs on Noah's Ark. Me liking someone and having respect for them as a person doesn't mean that their belief on something is correct or respectable.
You are completely free to disagree, obviously, as I am. It's just I don't personally criticize or psycho-analyze people publicly because I think it is unkind.
You've publicly criticized and made presumption psychological-based comments others in many of your posts; the only difference is that you did so in general terms rather than specific ones. I haven't psycho-analyzed you, and even if I did, why would that affect you? I'm a teenage girl probably less than half your age on an internet forum. I think it's substantially more unkind for you to propagate damaging beliefs and make comments that could be detrimental to others. I'm a very kind and caring person by nature which is why I've made the effort to even write here. I don't think that sugaring and sanitizing your words to ensure they don't inadvertently offend someone is an act of kindness.
No. I just said they don't in my last post.
That was my point. You were wanting to publicly call out those who commit one "sin" but not call out all other sinners.
I agree entirely. That's why it's ridiculous to condemn others. Children should know that we all fall and that, as it says in the movie Batman Begins, we fall to learn how to stand up again.
And yet the actions you advocate would invariably lead to the condemnation of others.
Cool. I was using "child" in a more general sense. I think, also, that childhood is extending itself... more and more people are taking longer to develop, I believe, because of the lack of affirming love and the amount of spoiling. Just a thought. Conrad Baars, MD, the Christian psychiatrist is one of my favorite authors and wrote about this.
Yes, people have taken longer to mentally and socially develop into autonomous adults, which is one of the reasons why views regarding sexual morality have evolved. In the Biblical era it was common for teens to marry shortly after puberty, so there was a relatively short amount of time between when their primal desire for sexual intimacy developed and when they wed. Today of course it's abnormal and in most places illegal for a 13-year-old to marry. In some fundamentalist cultures 16 and 17 year olds will get engaged and marry simply to have sex within the context of marriage, but I personally think that's a colossal error. For one the divorce rate is substantially higher for couples who marry in their teens. Where I live most people marry between the ages of 28 and 38, and it's uncommon for them to still be virgins by that age.
I take it you mean "made public". I think that the parents have a right to know, but not the community, even though it does affect the whole community seriously.
Of course. I edited my response to correct the typo more than 30 minutes before you wrote this response. I'm writing from my phone in the car so yes I'm going to make more careless mistakes.
As to whether parents have the right to know whether their teen is having sex, that depends hugely on the circumstances. A girl who just turned 13 is an entirely different developmental stage than a 17-year-old three months away from being a legal adult. The extent to which it impacts a community can often be very minimal, especially if the teen is having consensual and legal sex and using protection.
Likewise a teenager, I would suppose, has the right to know if their father or mother is having an affair.
I disagree. Unless there is a pressing reason to inform teens, they should not be burdened with that knowledge.
My parents are very ethical and not the types to have affairs, but if they did I absolutely would not want to know, nor would I feel entitled to that information. That would be between them to work out because it is their marriage.
Do you agree that fornication is wrong?
No. I do have strong views about sexual morality but simply having sex outside of the confines of marriage is not wrong to me. There's also Scriptural justification for this belief if you study them in their original languages and in historical context.
Oh, no, I remember the conversation, I just didn't recognize your screen name at first because your avatar was changed.
Okay. Then good.
I don't understand this talk about trying to "force" people to agree. How could anyone possibly do that?
It's not an actual, literal forcing but a metaphoric one with the insistence that all views that don't agree with yours are therefore morally wrong.
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