Interesting that as usual, those who do are not experiencing this temptation are the ones who have all the advice on how do deal with this temptation
It's a matter of our dual hybrid nature. We can let the animal control us or we can focus on the spirit. The spirit generally sees the animal as a foolish vehicle. We are an interesting experiment of two clashing entities, one selfish and one selfless.We can be tempted and ask God to give us the strength to resist. It’s by no means easy and a constant struggle.
I’ll assume you’re referring to me since you’re replying to me.
Please don’t assume I don’t feel these temptations. Besides that, I agree with most of your reply.
Jesus was tempted in all ways but He did not sin. We can be tempted and ask God to give us the strength to resist. It’s by no means easy and a constant struggle.
Two wives have passed. Life goes on. The choice is to justify continuing living in the married frame of mind or moving on (in reality back to the days when we were free of such relationships and had more friends and enjoyment out of life)Saying husband or wife may answer what we are/were but does not say who we are. If we need a mate to self identify we are lost anyway. I fully sympathize and empathise with anyone suffering loss and feeling without purpose, but enabling anyone helps no one.Giving advice or guidance on something that you really don't understand isn't very helpful and shows ignorance and arrogance on your part.
Two wives have passed. Life goes on. The choice is to justify continuing living in the married frame of mind or moving on (in reality back to the days when we were free of such relationships and had more friends and enjoyment out of life)Saying husband or wife may answer what we are/were but does not say who we are. If we need a mate to self identify we are lost anyway.
I lost my wife while Christmas shopping a few years back. It was an hour before i found her again but in that vacuum I had no desire to have sex.
But seriously of course society, especially in the US, will promote sex. It even lays down rules as to how many dates before you should feel obligated. But these are man's rules for man's purposes.
Now if a man is frustrated at your refusal to go along with his desires, then first of all he is not interested in you but what your flesh affords. Fail. But from your viewpoint I am sure age, loneliness, etc plays a part in prompting feelings you might not otherwise have. It's a catch 22 situation.
But ask yourself this. Is personal satisfaction ( the self serving rally cry of youth today) the immediate goal or is long term friendship, stability and the like. Which is more enduring, personal relationships or friendships that place no pressure to perform.
Remember when people didn't have sex until married. Was not the purpose so that they would build their marriage on other priorities first? Sex is the great confuser. Personally I think we should all revert to the days when we hung out in groups, enjoyed the company and left the ownership and commitment problems to the adults
Been there. But although true at the time, age will change your options.As for freer life now? Not likely since I had to become the breadwinner and both parents to our two kids. One me...twice the responsibilities. Nothing freer about that.
Been there. But although true at the time, age will change your options.
Perhaps God is hinting at changing directions instead of pursuing the old? We are not locked into this tradition.Really? I find my options being limited over time. My body is wearing out, it is harder to earn money, and the older I get, the lower my chances of getting remarried.
Perhaps God is hinting at changing directions instead of pursuing the old? We are not locked into this tradition.
I was referring to the relationship route.