I'm gonna jump in here, Faulty, and say a few things.
While I understand that sarcasm is like a 'second' language to you, that doesn't me we
all receive it like you intend.
Sometimes in your posts, I do wonder what you mean? And I do wonder if you are being sarcastic in a kind way or in an unkind way. Because, yes,
sarcasm can be used in a very hurtful way.
Now, I will say more. Because you and I have never 'tangled' on this board, and there's been no hard feelings between us (at least, as far as I know! lol), when I read your sarcasms I do tend to give you 'the benefit of the doubt'. I give you the 'benefit of the doubt' that you don't mean to be hurtful. And I blow it off.
And I do know that you have Aspergers, and that you've revealed that fact here helps lots to better understanding the meaning of what you are saying.
The problem is that sarcasm can really be used by some in a very hurtful way.
Personally, I DO NOT LIKE SARCASM because it
can make for lots of misunderstanding within a conversation.
I was raised in YankeeLand where sarcasm is very much spoken. But when living in the Bible Belt those many years, it was not spoken much there ... except by the Yankee Transplants living there. (lol!)
But I loved being away from the sarcasm all those years. I prefer it, to living in a culture of sarcasm ... which, by the way, is where I live now.
I think sarcasm can be okay, between persons that know each other
very way. But when we
don't know persons very well, like online, it can really make for some misunderstandings in some conversations. And don't be fooled: some people do use sarcasm online to hurt others and work to keep them off guard.
So, when you use sarcasm, I can give you the benefit of the doubt.
But if some other posters here were to speak it towards or about me ... persons that I've frequently tangled with ... no, I can't possibly receive their sarcasm as kindness. They most likely do not mean it as such.
p.s. And I'm sorry if you ever meant to offend me with your sarcasm, because now you know that you didn't!
(just kidding!)
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