- Dec 13, 2015
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So one of my closest friends told me this morning that they didn't want to hang around anymore and that basically our friendship of several years is over. They had found somebody else to play video games with and hang out with and didn't want to hang out with my wife and I anymore. It's true. My wife got a job in August and kept the job so she her time to hang out is limited. Especially when I demand so much of her free time because she's the only person who really talks to me anymore. She's the only person I can talk to about God, about theology, and about really any topic I could ever desire. My friend? He is only a Christian on paper. When it comes to actually making moves to BE a Christian he says away. He likes the get out of hell free card but he doesn't like the majority of what makes Christianity, Christianity. He won't ever read the Bible, he only picks the parts of christianity that he likes and completely ignores the rest. Just... all in all a Christian on paper. I'm probably acting childish but right now I don't care. We were supposed to be friends for decades and I promised him I would be his friend for the rest of my life but often times in life people just grow apart I guess.
It happened to me irl too I lost my best friend since second grade when we turned around 19 or so. We reconciled when he got married and then he stopped being my friend after that permanently. He will speak to my sister and my parents but he nor his wife will speak to me. So, why is it everytime God opens a new friendship in my life he closes it shortly afterwards? Even my pastor and I don't really see much eye to eye anymore and we used to hang out all the time. Often we would go to dinner and spread stories and email each other virtually everyday. And then when my wife found a job as i wasn't as much of a charity case anymore he stopped emailing me back and i haven't been to church in months or hung out with him since summer because my wife barely gets a Sunday off.
Its like the only reason we were inseparable was because he had money and my wife and I didn't so he gave us extra attention because we needed it and oftentimes the church would help us with food and everything when we needed it. Don't get me wrong. I don't mean to sound ungrateful I just feel used. I feel like now that we don't need as much help with money that our church doesn't care about us much anymore. We are/were the only people in our presbytery that really needed help. The vast majority of our presbytery is financially well off so now that we make normal money and aren't a charity case anymore nobody wants anything to do with us anymore.
It makes me feel abandoned and used. Like everytime God brings somebody into my life I'm supposed to only be friends with them or talk to them for a short while and then God moves on to the next person. I know I'm being childish but, I don't care I guess. I'm just too upset and feel too betrayed to care. I mean everytime I make a friend within 2-3 years sometimes 5 or 6 we won't be friends anymore. I know welcome to life. But, I'm the kind of person who wants to be your friend for the rest of my life. I'm not the kind of friend that will abandon you a few years afterwards. But, that isn't how friendship works I guess. It's supposed to just be temporary. So why is this is the prayer section? Idk I guess I just want prayers that everything will work out in the end and that I will grow up. Let's hope.
It happened to me irl too I lost my best friend since second grade when we turned around 19 or so. We reconciled when he got married and then he stopped being my friend after that permanently. He will speak to my sister and my parents but he nor his wife will speak to me. So, why is it everytime God opens a new friendship in my life he closes it shortly afterwards? Even my pastor and I don't really see much eye to eye anymore and we used to hang out all the time. Often we would go to dinner and spread stories and email each other virtually everyday. And then when my wife found a job as i wasn't as much of a charity case anymore he stopped emailing me back and i haven't been to church in months or hung out with him since summer because my wife barely gets a Sunday off.
Its like the only reason we were inseparable was because he had money and my wife and I didn't so he gave us extra attention because we needed it and oftentimes the church would help us with food and everything when we needed it. Don't get me wrong. I don't mean to sound ungrateful I just feel used. I feel like now that we don't need as much help with money that our church doesn't care about us much anymore. We are/were the only people in our presbytery that really needed help. The vast majority of our presbytery is financially well off so now that we make normal money and aren't a charity case anymore nobody wants anything to do with us anymore.
It makes me feel abandoned and used. Like everytime God brings somebody into my life I'm supposed to only be friends with them or talk to them for a short while and then God moves on to the next person. I know I'm being childish but, I don't care I guess. I'm just too upset and feel too betrayed to care. I mean everytime I make a friend within 2-3 years sometimes 5 or 6 we won't be friends anymore. I know welcome to life. But, I'm the kind of person who wants to be your friend for the rest of my life. I'm not the kind of friend that will abandon you a few years afterwards. But, that isn't how friendship works I guess. It's supposed to just be temporary. So why is this is the prayer section? Idk I guess I just want prayers that everything will work out in the end and that I will grow up. Let's hope.