This is a weird situation, so bear with me. The background is that I am a 36 year old guy, have one marriage behind me (we were friends, not husband and wife, amicable split, no kids) and I did the typical party guy thing until earlier this year when I had my own 'come to Jesus' moment. I was sick of myself for having the option to be with a new person every night and yet be so alone for it.
Things got interesting when, on Feb. 14th, I reconnected with my first girlfriend in high school. We hit it off like old times and have a wonderful relationship but for one thing - I'm not equally yoked. At least, not in the ultra traditional sense.
My past with religion was one where I am just not keen on conservative churches. They turned me from Jesus instead of to him. She is a devout Baptist as of 5 years ago when she came back to the herd after a scary car accident. I believe in the loving grace of God and Jesus and sacrifice, and she has the old school views of restriction and intolerance, though she isn't outward with it, it's just a denominational thing. She is trying new churches with me, and we compromise on a lot of things.
Here is the main kicker - I am of the volition that I am who I am , and I am also a Christian. I am not defined by it and I believe we were given free will for a reason. In my life, she is my priority as I have never loved anyone as I do her. I would take a bullet for her in a heartbeat and would do anything to make her world better. She is of the volition that everything has to be done with God in mind. Which is okay, I am cool with that even though I am of a slightly looser faith, but it makes me automatically lesser because I don't subscribe to that.
A great example of a compromise, but a not good enough one - We are, for all intents and purposes, in a courting type of relationship. We can't date properly due to a 2.5 hour drive each way, and she has 3 kids. We also decided to abstain until marriage. However, her reason was biblical and moral, mine was out of love for her and respect for her wishes.
This was not good enough. I am a believer, but not one who puts a literal belief in everything the bible says. I do not believe the bible was meant to be literal. However, it 'lessens' me in her eyes an that hurts me deeply, as I want to make this work.
We just got done texting a moment ago while I typed this and it may be a moot point. As I am not as devout, ultimately I will not be as good a Christian as I need to be to be compatible with her.
So I suppose my question is thus: Am I a 'lesser' Christian because I am somewhat skeptical of certain parts of the bible? I treat my fellow man as Jesus does, I do public outreach, addiction counseling, I volunteer, I have been saved, I believe in the main tenets, but the details I think are coming between us. Is it wrong to have God above me, but not as my sole decision maker?
Things got interesting when, on Feb. 14th, I reconnected with my first girlfriend in high school. We hit it off like old times and have a wonderful relationship but for one thing - I'm not equally yoked. At least, not in the ultra traditional sense.
My past with religion was one where I am just not keen on conservative churches. They turned me from Jesus instead of to him. She is a devout Baptist as of 5 years ago when she came back to the herd after a scary car accident. I believe in the loving grace of God and Jesus and sacrifice, and she has the old school views of restriction and intolerance, though she isn't outward with it, it's just a denominational thing. She is trying new churches with me, and we compromise on a lot of things.
Here is the main kicker - I am of the volition that I am who I am , and I am also a Christian. I am not defined by it and I believe we were given free will for a reason. In my life, she is my priority as I have never loved anyone as I do her. I would take a bullet for her in a heartbeat and would do anything to make her world better. She is of the volition that everything has to be done with God in mind. Which is okay, I am cool with that even though I am of a slightly looser faith, but it makes me automatically lesser because I don't subscribe to that.
A great example of a compromise, but a not good enough one - We are, for all intents and purposes, in a courting type of relationship. We can't date properly due to a 2.5 hour drive each way, and she has 3 kids. We also decided to abstain until marriage. However, her reason was biblical and moral, mine was out of love for her and respect for her wishes.
This was not good enough. I am a believer, but not one who puts a literal belief in everything the bible says. I do not believe the bible was meant to be literal. However, it 'lessens' me in her eyes an that hurts me deeply, as I want to make this work.
We just got done texting a moment ago while I typed this and it may be a moot point. As I am not as devout, ultimately I will not be as good a Christian as I need to be to be compatible with her.
So I suppose my question is thus: Am I a 'lesser' Christian because I am somewhat skeptical of certain parts of the bible? I treat my fellow man as Jesus does, I do public outreach, addiction counseling, I volunteer, I have been saved, I believe in the main tenets, but the details I think are coming between us. Is it wrong to have God above me, but not as my sole decision maker?