need mans point of view

[llghoney]

Would I be fooling myself if I found out that my husband had called an escort service & he says it did not let it get to the point of physical contact? I just needed a mans point of view on this.

 

[Diego84]

I hate to get you upset or worried, but you have to question his reasons for doing that. Cheating on someone is never a purely physical thing -- In fact, it starts with the heart (unmet emotional needs -- at least in his mind), and there's something going on his heart that he needs to address, before it does go any further.

God bless you in this situation.

 

[fisherman2]

YOu need to communicate, both of you. If he did ask him why, what is he looking for or what is missing that you are not giving him. Talk it out NOW, don't wait. As they say nip it in the bud. Like the other reply says''In fact, it starts with the heart (unmet emotional needs, you should know if this the case or not. Talk it out. I wish you the best.

 

[llghoney]

Thank you soooo much for your replies!!! We have talked about this now for 4 days. The point of the whole situation is that I found the info he did not come to me & tell me because he knew how I would react. Also, my b'day was Sat. & I found out Thurs. night. It has not been an easy couple of days needless to say. All we have done is talk since then. It is just very very hard. I sometimes think I could be better off but then I think yeah I have not given him what he needed as a wife. I really appreciate the replies!!!

 

[Adoniram]

llghoney-

Perhaps the problem lies not with "you not giving him what he needs," but rather his respect for you. Paul teaches "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." Eph. 5:25 By doing this he is certainly not showing love for you. Can he not see how he has crushed you? My wife would move out in a heartbeat if I ever did something like that. Talking is good, and I hope things work out for the best for you.

If both of you are Christians, maybe you should pray together about it. If he is sincerely sorry, God will forgive, and you should too. Gaining the trust back will be difficult, but you can do it with God's help.

 

[GutterRat]

llghoney-

Perhaps the problem lies not with "you not giving him what he needs," but rather his respect for you. Paul teaches "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it." Eph. 5:25 By doing this he is certainly not showing love for you. Can he not see how he has crushed you? My wife would move out in a heartbeat if I ever did something like that. Talking is good, and I hope things work out for the best for you.

If both of you are Christians, maybe you should pray together about it. If he is sincerely sorry, God will forgive, and you should too. Gaining the trust back will be difficult, but you can do it with God's help.

I think this is excellent advice. It is a two way street - even if you are not giving him what he needs ( and maybe he isn't even communicating his needs to you) - he still needs to respect you.

The main thing is, as everyone has said, keep talking & by ALL MEANS - PRAY!