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I'd love some advice here...
My 6 year old has recently started crying spontaneously. When I ask her what's wrong she says she's afraid that we (my hubby and I) are going to die. I try to assure her that we're going to be around a good long time and we're not going to leave her (I mean, what else do you tell a 6 year old?) but she's still afraid.
She says she's also afraid of dying. She says she doesn't want to die. Of course I tell her she's only a little girl, she's not going to die anytime soon either (once again, what else would you tell a 6 year old?).
I try to hug her and reassure her that death is something that happens to all of us whenever we've served whatever purpose that God has for us here on earth. I tell her that heaven is a wonderful, beautiful place where no one's ever sad or sick or mean to one another. And I make sure to tell her that heaven is a place where we'll all be together.
She cries and says that she knows all that, but she doesn't want things to change...she doesn't want to go to heaven because she just wants things to stay like they are now.
I don't know what else I can say to her. We've had the same scene two or three times now. It breaks my heart to see her so worried, even though I know there's nothing to worry about.
I'd appreciate any advice you guys have got. Also, do you have any good book recommendations? I mean more along the lines of children's books that I could read to her to help her understand that death is not something bad or scary.
We've always been really open about this issue and my girls have both been to several funerals before...I don't think that's the problem.
I suspect that it has to do with something she's heard from her friends or on the bus about death, and now she's afraid. Similarly, her friend once told her there was going to be a tornado (we were having thunderstorms) and she's since become terrified of tornadoes every time it even rains.
What can I do...I hate seeing her so worried about something like this.
My 6 year old has recently started crying spontaneously. When I ask her what's wrong she says she's afraid that we (my hubby and I) are going to die. I try to assure her that we're going to be around a good long time and we're not going to leave her (I mean, what else do you tell a 6 year old?) but she's still afraid.
She says she's also afraid of dying. She says she doesn't want to die. Of course I tell her she's only a little girl, she's not going to die anytime soon either (once again, what else would you tell a 6 year old?).
I try to hug her and reassure her that death is something that happens to all of us whenever we've served whatever purpose that God has for us here on earth. I tell her that heaven is a wonderful, beautiful place where no one's ever sad or sick or mean to one another. And I make sure to tell her that heaven is a place where we'll all be together.
She cries and says that she knows all that, but she doesn't want things to change...she doesn't want to go to heaven because she just wants things to stay like they are now.
I don't know what else I can say to her. We've had the same scene two or three times now. It breaks my heart to see her so worried, even though I know there's nothing to worry about.
I'd appreciate any advice you guys have got. Also, do you have any good book recommendations? I mean more along the lines of children's books that I could read to her to help her understand that death is not something bad or scary.
We've always been really open about this issue and my girls have both been to several funerals before...I don't think that's the problem.
I suspect that it has to do with something she's heard from her friends or on the bus about death, and now she's afraid. Similarly, her friend once told her there was going to be a tornado (we were having thunderstorms) and she's since become terrified of tornadoes every time it even rains.
What can I do...I hate seeing her so worried about something like this.