I have been a Christian since I was 9 years old. I am now 21. My husband "says" he's beena christian since he was 11, and he is now 25.
When we got married, I found a subscription to a Playboy magazine. I asked him why he had it, and he said it was for his uncle. Two months later, I stumbled across a magazine. I confronted him, and he promised to never look at it again. A couple of months later, we got the internet. I trusted him. I found inappropriate content all over it. He apologized, and promised never again. I found it again. He got angry at me for snooping. I told him that I could live with it, and worked to accept him. I couldn't, it hurt to much.
Finally, one day, he caught me crying, and when he asked me why, I told him because he looks at inappropriate content. He took a hammer to the computer, and said he'd never look again.
Two months later, I saw the cable bill where he'd ordered Pay per view. Again, he promised never to look again. He held me, and said he understood my pain, and he didn't need it any more.
Last month, I found it again. He broke his Cable remote controller, so he couldn't order it any more.
It looks like he's trying to stop, but just can't.
Background: When we got married, I had to move 2 hours from my home town to live with him. He took me to church 2 times in the first month after we got married, and that was it. I started commuting to my home church (2 hours away) one time a month every month for the year we've been married. I recently joined a local church, and it has helped me TREMENDOUSLY to be going to church regularly again.
My husband hasn't been to church in close to a year...he stopped going when we got married.
I've been praying, and I finally just put my marriage in God's hands, because I don't know what else to do! I guess I haven't put it in his hands fully, because I'm on here looking for guidance
Is this adultery? Is the fact that my husband is lusting after women besides his wife adultery? I know the bible says "If a man looketh upon a woman with lust in his heart, then he hath committed adultery" or something like that. Can I leave him over this?
I believe that once you are married, the only way that you can divorce, is over abuse, or adultery. My husband is mildly abusive (shoving me into walls, vaccume cleaners, closets, throwing things at me, etc.) but I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. Also, I do love my husband. I promised God for better or worse.
Honestly, I believe if I could marry again, I'd divorce my husband, and find someone who treats me with respect.
Like I said, my husband said he'd been a christian for over 10 years, and when we started dating, he never missed a service with me. We didn't date very long, because I believe in waiting until marriage for sex, and it got a little hard to wait So we were engaged only a week before we eloped.
My parents insisted that if we were in love, we'd want to be married as soon as possible, because my husband lived 2 hours away, and the commute to see me was difficult. That put a little more pressure on me to marry him sooner than I was ready to.
I think...well, I know I made a mistake to marry him, but the bible says "what God hath joined together, let no man put asunder" so now that my husband and I are joined together, I suppose I'm supposed to just live with it
What do you think
P.S. My husband's inappropriate content viewing causes problems in our marriage. He becomes angered a LOT more quickly when he's looking at it, and he can not make love to me *litterally CAN'T...as in, "not able"*
When we got married, I found a subscription to a Playboy magazine. I asked him why he had it, and he said it was for his uncle. Two months later, I stumbled across a magazine. I confronted him, and he promised to never look at it again. A couple of months later, we got the internet. I trusted him. I found inappropriate content all over it. He apologized, and promised never again. I found it again. He got angry at me for snooping. I told him that I could live with it, and worked to accept him. I couldn't, it hurt to much.
Finally, one day, he caught me crying, and when he asked me why, I told him because he looks at inappropriate content. He took a hammer to the computer, and said he'd never look again.
Two months later, I saw the cable bill where he'd ordered Pay per view. Again, he promised never to look again. He held me, and said he understood my pain, and he didn't need it any more.
Last month, I found it again. He broke his Cable remote controller, so he couldn't order it any more.
It looks like he's trying to stop, but just can't.
Background: When we got married, I had to move 2 hours from my home town to live with him. He took me to church 2 times in the first month after we got married, and that was it. I started commuting to my home church (2 hours away) one time a month every month for the year we've been married. I recently joined a local church, and it has helped me TREMENDOUSLY to be going to church regularly again.
My husband hasn't been to church in close to a year...he stopped going when we got married.
I've been praying, and I finally just put my marriage in God's hands, because I don't know what else to do! I guess I haven't put it in his hands fully, because I'm on here looking for guidance
Is this adultery? Is the fact that my husband is lusting after women besides his wife adultery? I know the bible says "If a man looketh upon a woman with lust in his heart, then he hath committed adultery" or something like that. Can I leave him over this?
I believe that once you are married, the only way that you can divorce, is over abuse, or adultery. My husband is mildly abusive (shoving me into walls, vaccume cleaners, closets, throwing things at me, etc.) but I don't want to be alone the rest of my life. Also, I do love my husband. I promised God for better or worse.
Honestly, I believe if I could marry again, I'd divorce my husband, and find someone who treats me with respect.
Like I said, my husband said he'd been a christian for over 10 years, and when we started dating, he never missed a service with me. We didn't date very long, because I believe in waiting until marriage for sex, and it got a little hard to wait So we were engaged only a week before we eloped.
My parents insisted that if we were in love, we'd want to be married as soon as possible, because my husband lived 2 hours away, and the commute to see me was difficult. That put a little more pressure on me to marry him sooner than I was ready to.
I think...well, I know I made a mistake to marry him, but the bible says "what God hath joined together, let no man put asunder" so now that my husband and I are joined together, I suppose I'm supposed to just live with it
What do you think
P.S. My husband's inappropriate content viewing causes problems in our marriage. He becomes angered a LOT more quickly when he's looking at it, and he can not make love to me *litterally CAN'T...as in, "not able"*