It's not only physical, it's borderline sexual assault at that point and depending how you spank children it's borderline sexual assault. Personally, I think spanking as your primary form of discipline is lazy parenting, there are other ways to displine your child, that require more time and effort from the parent, but aren't less effective at teaching whatever lesson. It's one thing completely different to swap your kid's hand away from electrical socket or spanking you child for running out into the street, things are immediate. The argument I can't stand is "I was spanked and I still love my parents and turned out fine." since you can't know if you would be worse or better if you, personally, were not spanked as a child.
Right, people always love to use that.....in response ask them if they have any flaws, if they answer yes say "well there you go clearly youre not fine." People are so close minded they can't examine themselves, if a culture accepts it most people will follow along and be ok with it. Me, I question everything and anything. I did research on spanking, the rod was a staff used to guide the sheep nobody was beating sheep with a stick to get them to comply. The animals didn't even get that type of treatment. I always find it so strange that america is so pro-animal "rights" but when it come's to children they just drop the ball. You can't dog outside for to long but you can beat your child with cane. That's highly questionable.
I agree it does seem to have some sort of sexual nature to the act. I've heard of bare bottom beatings as teenagers, that's to far on a road that shouldn't even be traveled on.
Right, spanking is about assuming control immediately. My daughter is a 1 yr and 8 months now, I haven't spanked her nor will I allow my wife to. Fear can grab you and make you overreact to a situation out of love, I don't believe that's abuse. For example my daughter started coughing, I got scared and pat her back to hard. It was one of the most fearful moments I have had in my life, I felt awful afterwards because she cried. I thought hurt her, probably did hurt her a little. That fear of her choking took over and I ran you know. In that fear, with that desire to protect your child, yes it's ok to slap away a dangerous something.
It's about the power, that why it's abusive to me. It's about gaining control that's it. When I a child touches a knife and you pop them to make sure they know. You pop that child because you want control of the situation, you just don't have the time due to the level of danger to reason it out. Any time you hit a child you are taking away that person's freedom. It's about total control.
It's really lazy, because discipline without is hard work. I have to be constant so my daughter can learn a concept. I get tired of saying no too, but it's work that has to be done.