I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years. We are young but we are both Christian and strong in our faith. We have only ever been with eachother & want to be married one day & are excited for our future together. However, one thing we struggle with is sex. We both know it is sin and we know we are young but it can be difficult to avoid temptation and we have definitely failed in the past.
Is having sex when you are in a committed relationship really a sin? Especially when you both plan to be married. We are just young (20) which is why we are not married as we are still finishing our degrees and dont have a place together yet . We are both just very lost and struggle with this a lot.
That is not true. If you are not married according to customs at the current time and/or laws of the land, you are not married. In no instance in scripture did the covenant of marriage deviate from this principle.1 Corinthians 7:9
Marriage isn't a ceremony or a legal contract it is a promise/commitment. There is never any obligation in the Bible to get a civil contract to be considered married in the eyes of others. (although that is probably wise to enforce your commitment) If you are committed to be with each other forever and you consider yourself to be married then you are married. I would just worry that it's easier to break that commitment if you don't have any outside recognition of your marriage.
There's no legal/social reason (I see) why you can't get married even if you can't live together at the moment. So my question for you would be: why haven't you gotten married yet? (made the promise and had the ceremony and gotten recognition from others that you are married) (I don't think it's important to get a government marriage license especially given we live in a secular society) Until you both get your own place it's just important to not get pregnant.
Could you give me a source? I realize in the old testament they had a theocracy that regulated marriage. I am just talking in context us being in a secular society. Where in the Bible are you required to get a government permit to be married? (although this might be wise to do under certain circumstances where does it say you have to?)That is not true. If you are not married according to customs at the current time and/or laws of the land, you are not married. In no instance in scripture did the covenant of marriage deviate from this principle.
I have no specific source for it. But we both can agree that scripture states we are to follow the laws and customs of the land except when they deviate from God's laws. We are to submit to the authorities of the land, the powers that be, and are to respect customs. Paul wrote these things in the letters, but this type of wisdom was always with righteous men, from Abraham to the New Testament. The book of Esther is a good example of the humility we are to take in regards to laws and customs, and also a good example of when we are permitted to disobey them (Mordecai's refusal to bow). Another example of permitted disobedience is the men refusing to commit idoltary in Daniel 3:18.Could you give me a source? I realize in the old testament they had a theocracy that regulated marriage. I am just talking in context us being in a secular society. Where in the Bible are you required to get a government permit to be married? (although this might be wise to do under certain circumstances where does it say you have to?)
Actually you get some tax benefits with being in a marriage so you wouldn't be denying the government anything . . .Marriage is a legal union between one natural born male and one natural born female that is celebrated as such with a ceremony and if it is before God and it is real, Then you best not deny it to the government to gain more income or better insurance. That would be sin.
Some people claim marriage if it is convenient and yet not if it entitles then to lose healthcare benefits or say a single woman with three kids keeps "single" on the forms to keep welfare and yet tells everyone that she is married. That is wrong!! God was present, Most important guest they could have :] Talk about VIPActually you get some tax benefits with being in a marriage so you wouldn't be denying the government anything . . .
Again, could you give me where you are getting this definition? Who was around to perform a ceremony for Adam and Eve?
I have no specific source for it. But we both can agree that scripture states we are to follow the laws and customs of the land except when they deviate from God's laws. We are to submit to the authorities of the land, the powers that be, and are to respect customs. Paul wrote these things in the letters, but this type of wisdom was always with righteous men, from Abraham to the New Testament. The book of Esther is a good example of the humility we are to take in regards to laws and customs, and also a good example of when we are permitted to disobey them (Mordecai's refusal to bow). Another example of permitted disobedience is the men refusing to commit idoltary in Daniel 3:18.
You both know it Is a sin. I think you have your answer right there.However, one thing we struggle with is sex. We both know it is sin and we know we are young but it can be difficult to avoid temptation and we have definitely failed in the past.
Ok well I'm not really familiar with this issue, if people can get benefits they aren't supposed to have then that's wrong.Some people claim marriage if it is convenient and yet not if it entitles then to lose healthcare benefits or say a single woman with three kids keeps "single" on the forms to keep welfare and yet tells everyone that she is married. That is wrong!! God was present, Most important guest they could have :] Talk about VIP
No... You ask me who they had perform the ceremony? I said God and He is the most important guest at any ceremony"That is wrong!! God was present, Most important guest they could have :] "
Ummm, so if me and a woman get together and pray and then commit to being married then that's fine? (I thought you had a problem with this) Matthew 18:20 "For where two or three have gathered together in My name, I am there in their midst."