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My in-laws are driving me crazy at the moment (who's don't!)
Dh and I have a boy who's 3 and a girls who's 1. DS I think is a fairly typical 3yo boy who is testing boundaries at the moment.
A few weeks ago my in-laws put it into ds's head that he needed a pair of sneakers as his boots 'weren't comfortable for playing in'. He's had his boots for a couple of months and he's had no problems with them until they put this suggestion to him. Now I don't see the need for him to have another pair of shoes so I told him that. For a couple of weeks MIL kept mentioning the sneaker thing to me until I eventually said that yes he could have some as long as they bought a specific pair (they had offered to pay for them). However when they did buy them they bought something completely different.
My MIL has also started ignoring when we say he can't have things. For example the other day he was refusing to eat his lunch but wanted some crisps. Dh and I told him that once he gad eaten a certain amount of his lunch he could gave a couple of crisps. But then after one mouthful MIL just gave him a handful of crisps! Then after his lunch she gave him a chocolate bar which I told him he could only have half of. When he kicked up a fuss MIL said 'oh can't you just give him the rest of it. He can have something different next time you come down'. I managed to stick to my guns and said no he couldn't have it.
She also seems to think that he can't be told off for being naughty because 'he can't remember that he's not supposed to do that (kick, shout etc)
I feel like every time I try to discipline my child my MIL just contradicts me. My DH told them that when we say no that they need to stand by our decision but she's still doing it.
I really don't know what to do. I don't want to cause problems with my In-laws but also I feel that they are hindering me bringing up my child. Generally speaking he is well behaved at my parents and my sisters but he will play up at my in-laws because he knows he can get away with it.
Dh and I have a boy who's 3 and a girls who's 1. DS I think is a fairly typical 3yo boy who is testing boundaries at the moment.
A few weeks ago my in-laws put it into ds's head that he needed a pair of sneakers as his boots 'weren't comfortable for playing in'. He's had his boots for a couple of months and he's had no problems with them until they put this suggestion to him. Now I don't see the need for him to have another pair of shoes so I told him that. For a couple of weeks MIL kept mentioning the sneaker thing to me until I eventually said that yes he could have some as long as they bought a specific pair (they had offered to pay for them). However when they did buy them they bought something completely different.
My MIL has also started ignoring when we say he can't have things. For example the other day he was refusing to eat his lunch but wanted some crisps. Dh and I told him that once he gad eaten a certain amount of his lunch he could gave a couple of crisps. But then after one mouthful MIL just gave him a handful of crisps! Then after his lunch she gave him a chocolate bar which I told him he could only have half of. When he kicked up a fuss MIL said 'oh can't you just give him the rest of it. He can have something different next time you come down'. I managed to stick to my guns and said no he couldn't have it.
She also seems to think that he can't be told off for being naughty because 'he can't remember that he's not supposed to do that (kick, shout etc)
I feel like every time I try to discipline my child my MIL just contradicts me. My DH told them that when we say no that they need to stand by our decision but she's still doing it.
I really don't know what to do. I don't want to cause problems with my In-laws but also I feel that they are hindering me bringing up my child. Generally speaking he is well behaved at my parents and my sisters but he will play up at my in-laws because he knows he can get away with it.