Winter
Jesus, let it be ok
I'm a little late in my reply but I would say to you to just be the beautiful person you are. Don't conform to what society tells you. Align yourself with Christ and His word, don't align yourself with what you think the world wants you to be. I am the same way, with the insects and all. And good for you for saving that rabbit. You are a compassionate person who loves God and His creation. You stay on that path and never let anyone dissuade you. God bless you.Hello,
I am a depressed, social-anxiety afflicted man in my mid-twenties - and I feel completely lost with no identity.
All my life I've been a kind and sensitive soul. I possess a balance of masculine and feminine characteristics mentally, and I suppose I may, without my facial hair, also look sort of like a girl, or at least a very pretty man (Was always teased as being a 'pretty boy' in school)
I always seem to be reduced to tears when arguing with people I love, or during sad/powerful scenes in movies. I remember as a kid, my friends found a baby rabbit when we were playing, and they wanted to feed it to one of my friends pet snake. I caught it before they could and I ran to set it free over a fence and they were yelling at me, and ya know...I cried as I let it go.
Even spiders, I capture and set them free outside so they can eat and try to survive. To me, all life is precious, even those who have done horrible things...No matter what people do to me, I can't help but forgive them, I've never done the "I'm mad at you so I'm not talking to you" thing...I always think of how I'd feel if somebody did that to me, so I always forgive. Even if a friend, looked me in the eyes and stabbed me in the chest with a knife, I'd still forgive them.
Since becoming a Christian, I was told by a girl who helped me find my Faith, that I needed to find my identity in Christ. I never had an identity to begin with...I'm so impressionable...I mimic whoever I'm with. If they say something, I agree with it. I don't have my own opinions. I tried being gruff and manly, I got into body building for a while and tried to be tough and ONLY masculine but I just felt broken and awkward.
I feel happy when I am at a happy medium, watching beauty videos on youtube, shopping for and owning cabinets full of hair and skincare products, as well as yelling with my buddies playing FPS games, and working on my car, lifting weights ect.
I will admit, I have gotten to a point of cross-dressing a little, I guess. Girls have some of the most comfortable clothes, like when I'm just by myself, I'll wear a floofy girl hoody in the winter, and sometimes their jean cuts are more accomodating, and the material is stretchier then some of my jeans for men which feel stiff and scratchy.
Fellow Christians have smashed me into the ground for being this way saying: Deuteronomy 22:5, "A woman must not wear men's clothing, nor a man wear women's clothing, for the LORD your God detests anyone who does this." -- which confuses me because it seems only society decides what is "mens clothes" and "womens clothes"
Also “Be on the alert, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.” I Corinthians 16:13 --- Saying my personality is not like a mans and that I need to change.
They tell me I need to be assertive and have strong leadership all the time. I love God, with all my heart. But I feel my personality is how God made me, and it's where I truly feel myself. I can jump into any role when I need to, I can lead, I can be assertive, I can be tough and fight. In a relationship too, I can do all that with my wife/gf, but I'd also love deep emotional discussions, snuggling on a couch and watching a chick flick.
One person at Church once said that I would need to discipline my wife when she misbehaved, and I was appalled, I asked "Why not put yourself in their shoes? See things from their point of view, and just be there for them." and they said "What? That's not what a man does. You're too diplomatic. You have to not be afraid to hurt somebodys feelings if you're going to be the man of the house, whether its your wife or kids."
Sorry...I just don't know what is right. I've prayed on this and I just got the feeling to write this here. I know it's a lot to read, but I had a lot bottled up. I just don't want to live in sin if being myself is what it is. Heelp
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