I don't know if this is the right forum, but here it goes.
Ever since I was little, I've been intrigued by women's shoes. They have so many different styles, and they are so much prettier than the otherwise boring shoes that guys have. I'd always long after the shoes that girls in school wore and wish I could wear ones like them.
When I met my ex-wife, we got to talking about what turns us on, and said I liked high heels. She would indulge me and wear them occasionally. One day I nervously asked what it was like to wear them. She didn't freak out and admired that I had the courage to speak up. She bought me a pair of high heels and thought I walked in them better than she did. I started buying more pairs, some for her and some for me, and she didn't mind if I wore them around the house. She figured there must be lots of guys who secretly wonder what it's like to wear them, but fear the shame of it. She also pointed out that women regularly wear pants, tuxes, and all sorts of items that men wear, so it seems silly that people freak out if a guy wears anything women would wear. She even admitted that I looked pretty good in them and had good taste.
We split for reasons other than the shoes, but we stayed friends. I found a forum online and I've actually met several guys in person who are straight, married, and yes, they wear high heels. Some of their wives are tolerant, others encourage it wholeheartedly. I also found forums for crossdressers, where many guys go the whole nine yards and impersonate women, even having a whole female persona. Surprisingly, even many of them are straight and some have wives who support and encourage it.
My ex-wife said I shouldn't settle for anyone who didn't accept it, and my last girlfriend certainly didn't. When I shared that I wear women's shoes, I may as well have been telling her I wanted to get a sex change. Lots of nasty text messages sent my way calling me "gay", "[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]", <staff edit>, etc.. I did some soul searching and decided to get rid of them. We made up, but not long after her true colors came through and we split up again. Once again, lots of name calling thinking that I must be "gay".
I'm torn on what to do. I really don't think I'm gay; I don't find guys attractive, I don't even like giving my dad a hug. I have worn women's shoes in public, and I even get compliments from men and women alike. Why do I wear them? Because they look nice, they sometimes fit me better than men's shoes (I have small feet for a guy), and why should women have all the fun? Still, I feel like I must be the village weirdo for wearing them, and it would make it hard to date.
Any thoughts? Am I a bad person because I like women's shoes?
Ever since I was little, I've been intrigued by women's shoes. They have so many different styles, and they are so much prettier than the otherwise boring shoes that guys have. I'd always long after the shoes that girls in school wore and wish I could wear ones like them.
When I met my ex-wife, we got to talking about what turns us on, and said I liked high heels. She would indulge me and wear them occasionally. One day I nervously asked what it was like to wear them. She didn't freak out and admired that I had the courage to speak up. She bought me a pair of high heels and thought I walked in them better than she did. I started buying more pairs, some for her and some for me, and she didn't mind if I wore them around the house. She figured there must be lots of guys who secretly wonder what it's like to wear them, but fear the shame of it. She also pointed out that women regularly wear pants, tuxes, and all sorts of items that men wear, so it seems silly that people freak out if a guy wears anything women would wear. She even admitted that I looked pretty good in them and had good taste.
We split for reasons other than the shoes, but we stayed friends. I found a forum online and I've actually met several guys in person who are straight, married, and yes, they wear high heels. Some of their wives are tolerant, others encourage it wholeheartedly. I also found forums for crossdressers, where many guys go the whole nine yards and impersonate women, even having a whole female persona. Surprisingly, even many of them are straight and some have wives who support and encourage it.
My ex-wife said I shouldn't settle for anyone who didn't accept it, and my last girlfriend certainly didn't. When I shared that I wear women's shoes, I may as well have been telling her I wanted to get a sex change. Lots of nasty text messages sent my way calling me "gay", "[bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse]", <staff edit>, etc.. I did some soul searching and decided to get rid of them. We made up, but not long after her true colors came through and we split up again. Once again, lots of name calling thinking that I must be "gay".
I'm torn on what to do. I really don't think I'm gay; I don't find guys attractive, I don't even like giving my dad a hug. I have worn women's shoes in public, and I even get compliments from men and women alike. Why do I wear them? Because they look nice, they sometimes fit me better than men's shoes (I have small feet for a guy), and why should women have all the fun? Still, I feel like I must be the village weirdo for wearing them, and it would make it hard to date.
Any thoughts? Am I a bad person because I like women's shoes?
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