The anniversary of Terry's death was this week. He died on Columbus Day, October 9th. This year October 9th was on Tuesday. So, it was 2 days of intense grieving--Columbus Day and the 9th.
How ironic, we settled Terry's estate on Columbus Day. My pastor went with me to the lawyer's office and I am so glad he did. It was very emotional, but it is over now. All I could think about was how at that time last year I was having dinner with Terry and had no idea that he was minutes away from dying.
On the 9th I met Terry's mother and siblings for lunch. And, in the evening, my kids came home. We had dinner and sat for 3 hours around the table talking about Terry and good times we had. It was such a beautiful time. I am so proud of them and the way they have reached out for each other.
My oldest daughter, however, has chosen a different path. I know everyone grieves differently, but she has cut all of us, even grandparents, aunts and uncles, out of her life. She is very angry, but I know if she would just turn back to the Lord and come back to the family, we would all be there for her.
Now, I must get ready to move. I will make settlement on the townhouse on November 15th. Then I have to fix up the home I live in now in order to put it up for sale. This will be hard, we lived all but the first 2 years of our marriage in this house. Also, Terry died in this house. Letting go will be hard, but I have to do it.
How ironic, we settled Terry's estate on Columbus Day. My pastor went with me to the lawyer's office and I am so glad he did. It was very emotional, but it is over now. All I could think about was how at that time last year I was having dinner with Terry and had no idea that he was minutes away from dying.
On the 9th I met Terry's mother and siblings for lunch. And, in the evening, my kids came home. We had dinner and sat for 3 hours around the table talking about Terry and good times we had. It was such a beautiful time. I am so proud of them and the way they have reached out for each other.
My oldest daughter, however, has chosen a different path. I know everyone grieves differently, but she has cut all of us, even grandparents, aunts and uncles, out of her life. She is very angry, but I know if she would just turn back to the Lord and come back to the family, we would all be there for her.
Now, I must get ready to move. I will make settlement on the townhouse on November 15th. Then I have to fix up the home I live in now in order to put it up for sale. This will be hard, we lived all but the first 2 years of our marriage in this house. Also, Terry died in this house. Letting go will be hard, but I have to do it.
