Endless said:
c1ners ... i've been reading some of your blog over the last few months. my fiancee found it and we were both touched to tears by the emotion in your posts.
i MUST ask a question that you needn't answer but to yourself. do you think that maybe by continuing the relationship with your late husband albeit spiritually ... you are damaging your relationship with your current husband? and ultimately his children?
if you can't give your whole heart to one who gives their whole heart to you ... they will sense it even if they don't know what they're feeling.
i am not calling you out ... i KNOW that you love danny. but maybe you are affecting everyone in your life by keeping him at the front of your heart instead of in its own locked room. you can never forget ... but to place those who are still alive before one who is past might offer you some emotional reprive and help repair damaged relationships.
just my observations ... i hope they weren't too forward
love in Christ
Emily
No, it wasn't too forward at all. Sometimes we all need a good kick in the rear.
However my blog as you call it was something that I hold inside and not allow others to see. It was a way of releasing all those deep dark scars that no one else in this world knows about. To the outside world I am this happy go lucky woman who hasn't a care in the world. But inside I was dying. I've never let on to my husband or my step children of how I feel. I treat my husband like he is the love of my life. No one knows how much I hurt over losing Danny. I have been big and brave for 19 years. Like I said, I was dying inside. I had to get it all out, and that blog helped to do that. I don't like knowing that people actually kept up with it. It makes me a little embarrassed, and a little ashamed. But it did help. Read the last post. It wasn't a letter to my Danny, but to all of you.
I don't think that it was because of Danny that my step children hate me so much. I think they blame me for the break up of their mom and dad. I think their mom told them that we were dating before they divorced. In fact, it was the other way around. My husband has felt guilty about leaving them, so he has always tried to take their said in everything. So, they've heard their mother talk bad about me, and they see that their dad can't respect me enough to take my side on anything, and they grow up thinking that I'm this kind of awful person. I don't know how to stop it anymore. I've tried talking to them, but they don't care enough to listen. I just give up. It's not like I live in the same house or even town with them.
I hope I'm not coming across as sounding harsh. I've not reread this, and I don't plan on it. If I sound harsh or angry at you, I don't mean to. You threw me for a curve when you told me you had read my "blog". Now I feel like I need to explain, but there isn't enough time in the day for me to do that, so I'm going to leave now with a thank you, and God Bless.