I have never used a site like this, but felt as if it was a good step in working through some of the pain that I still have from my past. I can tell you that my heart is beating like crazy right now. I am so incredibly nervous. It's been nearly two years, and I fear that the pain is never going to go away. I have tried hard to both work it out, and block it out, but I watch a movie, get a phone call, and my mind and heart go back to those nights. I want to cry and to break down, but I can't. I fear what this makes me. I fear the tears and the pain. I don't want this to always be part of me. I want to be able be alone at night and not travel back to those nights. I want to not be ashamed. I want to be free. I don't know how to do this, but I think that the more I am open about what happened, and the more I seek the guidance and wisdom of others, the more I will be free. How do you make the most use of forums?