How should you date a woman who has a little kid?

[Gabe7]

I'm considering doing this but I am not sure how to go about it. Should you take the kid out with the mother, I think you should. Or just take the mother out, mother thinks this is best. What do you think?

 

[SneakerPimp53]

I think the kid should be left out of mom's dating life for as long as it's possible. There's no sense of getting the kid attached to you only to have the relationship go south.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

lol, She probably won't let you see her child too soon, or at least any respectable mother usually won't (as they don't want any imprinting on the child of strange fellows that may leave their relationship sooner than later). Just get to know the mother as best you can, do this for awhile; because trust me, having a child involved in your relationship makes everything su... er, it makes everything more family orientated.

How old are you anyway Gabe?

 

[Gabe7]

I think the kid should be left out of mom's dating life for as long as it's possible. There's no sense of getting the kid attached to you only to have the relationship go south.

Who am I to take a parent away from its child when the parent could be spending time with the child instead?

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Who am I to take a parent away from its child when the parent could be spending time with the child instead?

Most Single Moms I know enjoy leaving their child for entertainment purposes... idk, raising a child on your own is pretty hard and there has to be some sort of relief to it I imagine.

 

[Daedalus^2]

I'm considering doing this but I am not sure how to go about it. Should you take the kid out with the mother, I think you should. Or just take the mother out, mother thinks this is best. What do you think?

I think the question is less 'should I date a women with a small kid', but more 'Have I prayed and heard God's voice clearly?'

 

[Marycita]

okay....I think I could potentially sound like a broken record...but especially if there's a child involved...figure out your interests and then pursue...


are all your threads serious?....I'm not meaning to sound rude with that..I would genuinely like to know....

Praying for you

 

[Gabe7]

I think the question is less 'should I date a women with a small kid', but more 'Have I prayed and heard God's voice clearly?'

God doesn't audibly talk to me. He puts people and situations in my life and expects me to deal with them as an emissary of God's love and grace.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

God speaks through His word rather clearly, and of course the Holy Ghost as well (John 14:26); His love is tough love at that and He chastens whom He loves, you're responsible for keeping His commandments (read my signature).

 

[Daedalus^2]

God doesn't audibly talk to me. He puts people and situations in my life and expects me to deal with them as an emissary of God's love and grace.

I'm not saying audibly. I don't hear God audibly. Neither do a lot of my strong Christian friends, and in my time in churches, I've only met a few people who have heard Him audibly and tangibly speak.

I'm talking of the voice in your spirit, that thing that stirs your heart. The voice that speaks wisdom, brings peace, directs and corrects, the one that brings conviction and redemption. The one that speaks to you when no-one else will.

And if you're not hearing it... Then maybe you're not listening, or you're ignoring it because you're hearing an answer you don't like.

 

[Gabe7]

God speaks through His word rather clearly, and of course the Holy Ghost as well (John 14:26); His love is tough love at that and He chastens whom He loves, you're responsible for keeping His commandments (read my signature).

What do God's commandments say about dating a woman who has a kid?

 

[benf]

Long-distance?

Ba-dum-tsh

 

[SneakerPimp53]

Who am I to take a parent away from its child when the parent could be spending time with the child instead?

Parents don't cease to be individual people with their own wants and needs just because children come along. The general expert opinion on the matter is helicopter parenting is unhealthy for both parents and children. Mom and child need time apart, and mom needs to explore her dating life without visiting the up's and down's on the kid. It's also a great opportunity for the child to develop relationships with his grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other extended family and friends.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

What do God's commandments say about dating a woman who has a kid?

That would entirely depend on her situation, how long has her and the Pops of the child been apart?

Is she a Christian? Was she married?

Provide more details and I can find scriptures for you

 

[Gabe7]

That would entirely depend on her situation, how long has her and the Pops of the child been apart?

Is she a Christian? Was she married?

Provide more details and I can find scriptures for you

Those are excellent questions. Should I ask her if she's ever had an abortion while I'm at it?

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Well, I think you might be able to assume that she may not have if she's a Christian; otherwise, if she has, what were the circumstances of her abortion might be an eventual question, yes.

 

[Gabe7]

Well, I think you might be able to assume that she may not have if she's a Christian; otherwise, if she has, what were the circumstances of her abortion might be an eventual question, yes.

I don't think I know of one atheist who has had an abortion but off hand I know at least 2 Christian women who have told me they have. They regretted it and in one case it destroyed her marriage when her husband found out.

One of my former Pastors teared up when he spoke of sin and its effects on people and at the time I thought less of him for his emotional response. My heart was hard. Now I feel that too and I see what he saw as the wreckage of sin runs rampant.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

Really? I can think of quite a few Athiests I know that have had abortions, maybe your demographic is different than mine though; well, it must be.

 

[Gabe7]

Really? I can think of quite a few Athiests I know that have had abortions, maybe your demographic is different than mine though; well, it must be.

It might be. Most people around me claim to be Christians. Funny thing. The Wiccan I mentioned the other day has a kid she put up for adoption. So even the one Wiccan I know didn't go for the abortion option. She even showed me pics of her son.

 

[SneakerPimp53]

Well it's good to know that even if people can't agree on the existence of God they can have having had abortions in common.......