How many has cancer touched?

[ComesoonmyLORD]

It seems to me that I'm constantly hearing or reading about widows and widowers who have lost their spouses to some type of cancer. The prayer mail I get from my church every day or so always has someone who has been diagnosed with cancer or is dealing with it in some way.

How many of you have lost your spouse to some type of cancer? How long were they fighting it? What type?

 

[c1ners]

My husband was diagnosed with malenoma. The doctors gave him three to ten years to live. He passed away one month after his surgery, but no due to his cancer. We were in a car accident. I don't know if that was a God send or not. He didn't have to suffer, so that is good, but I had to be without him sooner than I thought I would, and that wasn't good.

 

[tomknapp1950]

My wife was diagnosed with stage 3-4 ovarian cancer in Feb-06 and died in April-06 after about 8 weeks in the hospital and ICU. I do not want to go into detail that will only make me unable to finish this reply so I will leave it at that for now. Ovarian cancer is a nasty hidden killer that is usually detected too late! She is fine now though and worshipping before the throne.

 

[c1ners]

I'm sorry Tom. Keep strong in the Lord. He'll carry you through.
If you need someone to talk to, I'm always around.
God Bless, and take care.

 

[singingwife]

I too am a cancer widow. My dh had Hodgkins stage 4. Tomknapp, my experience was probably similar to yours. For months we didn't know what was wrong, but that something was wrong. He kept getting weaker, losing weight, paler, blood levels got lower, and yet many tests for things came back negative! Only when he had a surgical biopsy, did we find that out. Stage 4 is more difficult to treat, but a plan was in place, and we knew he had a chance. Unfortunately, it was only 3 weeks after we got the diagnosis that he died.

 

[sadheart]

My husband died of pancreatic cancer. He lived only three months. We have four grown children. He had been going to the doctor for digestive problems for a year aned a half but no one could find anything wrong.

 

[dily4ever]

my husband was diagnosed with stage 4 stomach cancer on 12 Sep 2006 and he passed away on 6 Dec 2006...

 

[allbymyself]

My husband died from colon cancer Jan 2008 and battled it for 10 years. He had a remission period of 4 years free but when it returned it was located in the lungs and then eventually to the brain. He too was very strongwilled in believing he would be cured but God had other plans for him. I'm 50 now and my 40's were filled with being a caregiver. Even though I miss my husband, I am trying to move on because he would want me too. I know he is constantly with me, as I recieve pennies from him especially when I'm thinking of him or talking to him they suddenly appear from nowhere.

 

[mammaw3n3]

my husband was diagnosed with bladder cancer in march 08,... he was considered curable and did fine thru chemo and radiation...he had one good month and went to be with the Lord on Oct. 24 08...the doctors said his cancer had returned but no one could ever find it...it is hard trying to cope after being with him for almost 30 years...i hope i can find some friends who know what i am going thru on this forum...thanks and God bless...lyn

 

[Sergeant's widow]

yes, we know what you are going through.

My husband did not have cancer, but I have lost friends and my father to cancer. It is an insidious disease with so many types and places it can strike. My little friend that has been battling cancer for 3 years says, "Cancer Sucks!" I agree.

 

[PvtPoverty]

My wife was diagnosed in June with stage IV lung cancer, just two weeks after my mother passed from the same disease. She passed away in my arms early Christmas morning. My mom was 80, my wife was 51. This is so much harder than I ever imagined.

 

[angmang2]

I recently lost my husband to cancer. He fought hard for 2.5 years but could not fight any longer. He was diagnosed at stage 3, had chemo, radiation, surgery in december of 06. His cancered recurred in October 07. I knew something was wrong, he just was not okay. He spent the last year of his life in and out of the hospital. He was more concerned about me and how I would be. Hospice told us in November 08 that he would not be here for Christmas. Boy, they were right on. I kept thinking they don't know what they're talking about. Anyway, he went home to be with his Jesus as he told family and friends that he was going to do when he said his goodbyes. I still can't believe he's really gone.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

My father-in-law lived with us most of our married life. He died from Multiple Myaloma which is cancer in your blood stream. He had been going to the VA hospital for 2 years, and he died 3 weeks after we found out he had cancer. He was 63.
My mother died of breast cancer. She had one of her breasts removed on my birthday and didn't even tell me until after the surgery! She then got a tumor on her neck bone. They had to screw a hallo to her head and take a bone from her hip to put in her neck to support her head. Then it attacked her spinal cord. She fought it for 5 years and then died. She was 58.
My Husband had squamous cell carcinoma which is head and neck cancer. He started with a tumor on the right side of his throat. They removed that and he had about 40 radiation treatments and then was fine for about a year and a half. Then he started getting headaches and he ended up with a tumor behind his eye. They gave him 3 months to live and he lived 6 months. He died one day after his 55th birthday. It will be 4 years this month on the 23rd.
My step daughters mother also died a couple of years before my husband of ovarian cancer.
I have told God that I think I have had enough cancer in my family!
I miss my husband greatly and I don't know how or if I will ever meet anyone as a mate again. I know none of my family members that have died of cancer are suffering anymore and for that I am grateful. I have 2 boys that are almost 15 and eleven that I need to be strong for, so for now that is my focus.
I hate cancer! I also can't believe we don't have a cure for it yet. I just don't believe it. I think there is one, and they (whoever "they" is) are keeping it from us, so we can be put on drugs and die a slow horrible death. It's not right. But I also believe God has a plan in all this, and that is where I keep my focus. I believe we are not too far away from seeing our Lord ourselves, so I choose to look up for our redemption draweth nigh.

 

[Kept Heart]

My wife was diagnosed with Pancreatic in 05. Walked around the corner on Jan. 31, 09. She passed every "dead" line set before her, to the glory of our Father. She was given 3 - 6 months in Nov. 05 at 35 years old. Long fight for a amazing Warrior.

 

[RuthD]

My x husband died of lung cancer. We did not keep in touch and one day I found something in SS that reported his death. I went to the library and found his death notice. It was a shock. Sorry to say that I did not grieve, I was still so angry from how he treated me. Unfortunately I am embarrassed to write this.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

On Tuesday a good good friend of mine died of brain cancer. Her husband just got out of the hospital because just recently he was diagnosed with throat cancer. He has never smoked or anything like that and it's just hard to understand sometimes why some families have more tragedy and some have less. Previously they lost a teenage son that was 18 in a car accident on the way to school. I HATE cancer!!!

 

[Judy Dods]

My wife was diagnosed in June with stage IV lung cancer, just two weeks after my mother passed from the same disease. She passed away in my arms early Christmas morning. My mom was 80, my wife was 51. This is so much harder than I ever imagined.

My Mom and my husband passed away in 2006 six months apart.
It never gets any easier. But we receive tremendous joy when we talk about them. Do not be discouraged but look unto the Lord for further understanding. As difficult as it is you must remember the good times spent with them. Give that sadness to the Lord and he alone will bless your heart.

 

[Pilgrim1951]

March 29, 2006 I lost Sam, my husband of over 28 years to esophogeal cancer. I remarried July 21,2007. My Danny was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer Sept. 2, 2009 and passed away February 20, 2010.

 

[faithas]

Hi,

I am new here. Glad to be here

My husband died of melanoma on May 17, 2007. He was 52 years old. We had been married 34 years. He is with the Lord - but I miss him terribly. Cancer is a murderer and many lose loved ones from it.:-(

In Christ,
Faith

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Hi,

I am new here. Glad to be here

My husband died of melanoma on May 17, 2007. He was 52 years old. We had been married 34 years. He is with the Lord - but I miss him terribly. Cancer is a murderer and many lose loved ones from it.:-(

In Christ,
Faith

Welcome faithas. So sorry to hear about your loss. Of course most of us hear in this section have experienced loss too. My husband was only 55, much too soon for either of them IMO, but God knows the plans he has for us, so I put my trust in that. I hope you will feel welcome here. The only comfort I have is that I know that I will see my husband and all my loved ones that are in Christ again and that's the only way I can get thru it. I would be a mess if I didn't believe in Jesus.