Hi all,
At the very beginning of my fiancé and I's relationship, he was up front and honest about his sexual history. He had anywhere between 25-30 partners whereas I have never had any. It took a lot of time, communication and prayers to move past it.
However, last night, he came clean and said that he had hooked up with one of the girl's he's still friends with now multiple times. In fact, she was at our engagement dinner and is invited to the wedding. Even though he says there's nothing between them now because he see's her as his little sister and it was 10 years ago, I'm still shocked, hurt and disappointed. It is one thing to know about his past but it's another to put an actual name and face to that person.
I just don't know what to do or where to begin to start processing all of this. It's like old wounds have opened up again and I'm trying my best to stay put together. He reassures me that he only loves me and wants me for the rest of his life. He apologized for his past and feels really bad that he didn't wait for me.
Is there anyone who has gone through this? If so, how did you cope?
If you had a similar story to my fiancé's, I would like to hear your perspective as well.
Thank you
At the very beginning of my fiancé and I's relationship, he was up front and honest about his sexual history. He had anywhere between 25-30 partners whereas I have never had any. It took a lot of time, communication and prayers to move past it.
However, last night, he came clean and said that he had hooked up with one of the girl's he's still friends with now multiple times. In fact, she was at our engagement dinner and is invited to the wedding. Even though he says there's nothing between them now because he see's her as his little sister and it was 10 years ago, I'm still shocked, hurt and disappointed. It is one thing to know about his past but it's another to put an actual name and face to that person.
I just don't know what to do or where to begin to start processing all of this. It's like old wounds have opened up again and I'm trying my best to stay put together. He reassures me that he only loves me and wants me for the rest of his life. He apologized for his past and feels really bad that he didn't wait for me.
Is there anyone who has gone through this? If so, how did you cope?
If you had a similar story to my fiancé's, I would like to hear your perspective as well.
Thank you