We are newlyweds, no children involved. I'm 28 and he's 32. We've been together for two years and got married a month ago. When we were first together, everything was completely opposite than it is now. We were both social butterfly's, and he was so happy-go-lucky. He was so positive and so motivated. It motivated me too. Fast forward to now. He hates his job so much, it's making him hate life and himself. He works at Costco and has worked there for 8 years. He is very under appreciated, he has gotten so many awards and has been incredibly accurate but his coveted position for supervisor has been given away to other people who have been there for 2 years, and are now telling him what to do. He is miserable and numb inside. He hates his job, he feels like a failure. He has a real-estate degree, has worked flipping houses, has worked for a CPA firm, and has a leader spirit. He's just incredibly lost. He's been so depressed for a long time now. I want to say probably for about a year now.
I blamed myself at first, I thought I wasn't giving him what he needed to succeed, but he said I was the only thing in his life keeping him sane. Sometimes I think he says that because he doesn't want to lose me, and he can't handle any more hurt. Every day he comes home from work and his stress is taken out on me. He yells at me for little things, he doesn't eat because he's so depressed. I have to make sure he's eating. He doesn't play music anymore-a passion of his. We are no longer social butterfly's. I stay home on the weekends now. My family and friends are far away and I feel guilty leaving him home while he's severely depressed. I'm home about 90% of the time. The other 10% is just for food, or window shopping. I have no life and I'm getting depressed. But I'm trying so hard to keep it together for my husband. I feel trapped in my own home.
I've never been more stuck in my life. I'm so lost, and so is he. I love him, and I want this to all work out. I want everything to be okay. He's been so angry lately and has lashed out. His mental health is going downhill and so is his physical health. He picked up smoking and is starting to smoke alot. I'm so worried about him. If anyone reads this, first of all, thank you for taking the time to hear me out. Also, please just send a little prayer for me. I need a miracle. We need a miracle.
I blamed myself at first, I thought I wasn't giving him what he needed to succeed, but he said I was the only thing in his life keeping him sane. Sometimes I think he says that because he doesn't want to lose me, and he can't handle any more hurt. Every day he comes home from work and his stress is taken out on me. He yells at me for little things, he doesn't eat because he's so depressed. I have to make sure he's eating. He doesn't play music anymore-a passion of his. We are no longer social butterfly's. I stay home on the weekends now. My family and friends are far away and I feel guilty leaving him home while he's severely depressed. I'm home about 90% of the time. The other 10% is just for food, or window shopping. I have no life and I'm getting depressed. But I'm trying so hard to keep it together for my husband. I feel trapped in my own home.
I've never been more stuck in my life. I'm so lost, and so is he. I love him, and I want this to all work out. I want everything to be okay. He's been so angry lately and has lashed out. His mental health is going downhill and so is his physical health. He picked up smoking and is starting to smoke alot. I'm so worried about him. If anyone reads this, first of all, thank you for taking the time to hear me out. Also, please just send a little prayer for me. I need a miracle. We need a miracle.