Hello,
I have been married for a whole month and our two families are already breaking apart.
I had a bridal shower back in March and my mother-in-law drank to much and said some very hurtful things to my mother at the shower. Then she got sick from drinking to much and blamed my mother for it.
Now 1 month after the wedding my husband told me that my mom made a nasty comment to one of his cousins about his possible infertility from 2 cancer cycles. The cousin stated my mom said that "we will not have to worry about pregnancy because he shoots blanks."
I approached my mother about this and she was horrified that anyone would accuse her of saying that. She also told me she was not even apart of the conversion with the cousin but it was one of her friends and that those words were never spoken.
Upon my husband re-checking with the cousin, she still claims 100% that my mother made those remarks. (My mother-in-law, also said she heard my mom say the words even though she was no where near them and the conversation)...
Now my husband and I are stuck in the middle of this mess because we both don't feel either side would lie to us or try to damage the family but both sides are sticking with their stories. And because of this my mother wants nothing to do with the women in my husbands family because she finds them to be vicious gossipers and storytellers. This will obviously cause problems with family get together in the future. And I now find myself not wanting to engage with the women of my husbands family either
My husband just wants to move on from the situation because there really is nothing he can do since the cousin is not budging and other family members are supporting her.
I don't know what to do, I am so hurt and angry of the treatment of my mother by my husbands family and as a Christian and a wife I don't know how to move forward. Part of me feels like my husband is letting his family off way to easy, but on the other hand what can he really do? We were not there so we can't ever know the real truth...
I am so angry but I want to act Godly because I know acting in any other way will only lead to more destruction.
Any advice on how I can move forward and how I should handle the two families now would be very helpful.
I have been married for a whole month and our two families are already breaking apart.
I had a bridal shower back in March and my mother-in-law drank to much and said some very hurtful things to my mother at the shower. Then she got sick from drinking to much and blamed my mother for it.
Now 1 month after the wedding my husband told me that my mom made a nasty comment to one of his cousins about his possible infertility from 2 cancer cycles. The cousin stated my mom said that "we will not have to worry about pregnancy because he shoots blanks."
I approached my mother about this and she was horrified that anyone would accuse her of saying that. She also told me she was not even apart of the conversion with the cousin but it was one of her friends and that those words were never spoken.
Upon my husband re-checking with the cousin, she still claims 100% that my mother made those remarks. (My mother-in-law, also said she heard my mom say the words even though she was no where near them and the conversation)...
Now my husband and I are stuck in the middle of this mess because we both don't feel either side would lie to us or try to damage the family but both sides are sticking with their stories. And because of this my mother wants nothing to do with the women in my husbands family because she finds them to be vicious gossipers and storytellers. This will obviously cause problems with family get together in the future. And I now find myself not wanting to engage with the women of my husbands family either
My husband just wants to move on from the situation because there really is nothing he can do since the cousin is not budging and other family members are supporting her.
I don't know what to do, I am so hurt and angry of the treatment of my mother by my husbands family and as a Christian and a wife I don't know how to move forward. Part of me feels like my husband is letting his family off way to easy, but on the other hand what can he really do? We were not there so we can't ever know the real truth...
I am so angry but I want to act Godly because I know acting in any other way will only lead to more destruction.
Any advice on how I can move forward and how I should handle the two families now would be very helpful.