I'm happily married and have 2 young kids. My husband and I are in our late 20's and are in good shape and good health. We have sex about once a week. It is usually very good and mutually fulfilling. My husband sometimes wants to do it more often, and depending on my mood I will sometimes gently refuse him or sometimes just give in and try to get my mind in the right place and go along with it.
However, I've had the unsettling experience recently where I have instead of neutrally just going along with I actually felt disgusted and couldn't bear to be touched. I didn't say anything at first, but when I did bring it up to my husband I made sure I told him it wasn't his fault, it was an issue with me. I wish I could have a stronger sex drive. I was told in a Christian family class in high school never to reject sex from your spouse because it is damaging to your relationship and selfish, so I try as often as I can to get myself in the mood. I am really shocked and frightened by the feeling of revulsion I felt at being touched though.
I should mention that I go through periods of anxiety/depression from time to time that I deal with as best I can but they never seem to leave me completely. Maybe the anxiety is messing with my head and my desire for sex.
I also feel like I should mention that when we were first married I was anxious and when we would have sex sometimes I physically couldn't even do it or we could but it was painful for me. I somehow managed to loosen up and have been overall greatly enjoying sex since then. Until this recent problem.
I don't want to be a frigid wife. I am going to try to work on my anxiety issues and hope that it solves these issues. I wonder if anyone has any other insights or advice or similar stories...
Thanks for listening & God Bless.
However, I've had the unsettling experience recently where I have instead of neutrally just going along with I actually felt disgusted and couldn't bear to be touched. I didn't say anything at first, but when I did bring it up to my husband I made sure I told him it wasn't his fault, it was an issue with me. I wish I could have a stronger sex drive. I was told in a Christian family class in high school never to reject sex from your spouse because it is damaging to your relationship and selfish, so I try as often as I can to get myself in the mood. I am really shocked and frightened by the feeling of revulsion I felt at being touched though.
I should mention that I go through periods of anxiety/depression from time to time that I deal with as best I can but they never seem to leave me completely. Maybe the anxiety is messing with my head and my desire for sex.
I also feel like I should mention that when we were first married I was anxious and when we would have sex sometimes I physically couldn't even do it or we could but it was painful for me. I somehow managed to loosen up and have been overall greatly enjoying sex since then. Until this recent problem.
I don't want to be a frigid wife. I am going to try to work on my anxiety issues and hope that it solves these issues. I wonder if anyone has any other insights or advice or similar stories...
Thanks for listening & God Bless.