Jesus said it in Matthew 6:24
24"No one can serve two masters. Either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other.
When we go to Bible study we need to ask ourselves what is it that we are there to do? If you are there to serve the Lord and give Him praise and worship then that is what you should do but if you are there to find a man (or woman) then who are you really serving? If we spend our time focused on ourselves and our needs are we truly worshipping God? How can we say that my God will meet all your needs according to his glorious riches in Christ Jesus (Phillipians 4:19) yet sit there searching the seats next to us looking for 'the one'? Am I choosing to 'help' God find me someone by going to a coed Bible study? Can God only provide for me half the time and I need to do the rest? Yes she sould sign up to 50, 100, 1000 Bible studies but the point will always be who are you serving there - you or God?
When we go to praise God we should be devoted to our time of praise. Just as much as when I visit my mother she likes me to focus on her, so does God. If I spent my time talking on my mobile phone or the internet or listening to my ipod when I went to visit my mother you would think that I was a rude and selfish daughter yet when I enter a time of praise and worship it is ok for me to be self seeking and searching for a man to date?
Of course we all struggle with this but you have to decide what is best for you. It may be better to join a female's Bible study and then socialise with people from the coed group in a non Bible study situation which enables you to search for a man without interfering with your time with God. It is up to you what you decide what is the right answer but your time with God is precious. He sees it that way. God loves the fact that you want to learn more about Him and
are seeking to put Him above all others. I hope and pray that you find a way to do this.
And I will leave you with this Bible verse from Paul -
Philipians 4vs8
Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirableif anything is excellent or praiseworthythink about such things.
May your heart always be pure in the sight of the Lord.