Well that's picking favorites aint it
God's love is clearly defined in Scripture, and Scripture also tells us that God does not show favoritism.
If we are to commissioned to love others as we love ourselves, there is no room for any "special" kind of love
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church, and gave himself up for her. Eph 5:25
Sounds like the Bible disagrees with you.
As for God playing favorites, it seems like you are a victim of understanding certain Bible verses in a vacuum. (ie, without regard to context)
God clearly plays favorites. He chose Israel over all the nations of the earth. Jesus chose his disciples from amongst all the other men on earth. One can hardly read the Old Testament without discovering that God chooses particular nations and people for certain things that He did not choose everyone else for.
If you walked up to an Old Testament Jew and said "God does not play favorites", they would laugh in your face. They would remind you that God set his covenental love on Israel alone. And rescued them from Egyptian bondage, and sided with them against Egypt and destroyed them. He gave them promises and blessings that he never gave to any other nations. He sided with them in times of war to help them defeat other peoples so Israel could claim their lands.
Anyone who says "God does not play favorites" is simply ignorant or ignoring what he knows of the Old Testament.
The reason you think God does not play favorites is because of a couple of Bible verses that you are misinterpreting.
The first is Romaons 2:11 which states "For God shows no partiality". But this
isn't just a blanket sweeping statement that applies to all things and all topics. The verse is not saying that God never shows partiality in any circumstance, ever. But it has a context. If you read the passage, it is talking about God not showing partiality in his judgement and condemnation of sinners, namely, the difference between Jews and Gentiles:
Rom 2:9-12 There will be tribulation and distress for every human being who does evil, the Jew first and also the Greek, 10 but glory and honor and peace for everyone who does good, the Jew first and also the Greek. 11 For God shows no partiality.
For all who have sinned without the law will also perish without the law, and all who have sinned under the law will be judged by the law.
Paul is simply saying that Jews are no different than Gentiles, as far as God's judgement is concerned. The Jews and Gentiles are not treated any differently just because the Jews had access to God's laws and the Gentiles didn't.
As you can see with your own eyes, this verse has nothing to do with God never showing partiality. So you used it out of context.
The next verse you are using out of context to support the idea that God doesn't play favorites (despite the clear scriptural evidence and life evidence that he does) is Acts 10:34.
The verse in question says: Then Peter began to speak: I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism
But again, if you read the context, he isn't talking about every circumstance ever. but instead, there is a particular context in which the words "God does not show favoritism" must be understood.
If you simply read the very next verse, you will understand the verse more:
Then Peter began to speak: I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism
but accepts from every nation the one who fears him and does what is right
By reading verse 34 in a vacuum you do a real disservice to yourself because verse 34 and 35 make a complete sentence. But you were ignoring verse 35 (the second half of the sentence) thus you were keeping yourself from the full amount of information. That's what ignoring context does.
Here, Peter is simply saying God does not exclude anyone who fears God and does what is right, simply because he is from another nation other than Israel. Peter is simply acknowledging that anyone in any nation who truly fears the Lord is accepted by God. This verse has nothing to do with God never being able to have a special love on particular nations or people (something we've already established he clearly does, especially in the Old Testament)
Again, you are using these verses wrongly to support a crazy notion that frankly, can't even be supported by a casual reading of the Bible.
I found this video helpful:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EvDH8YGT2y4