I am sorry you have had a bad experience with this. However, the goodness or badness of a doctrine can never be based upon the reaction it receives from people, but from its faithfulness to Scripture. The fact is, people in Paul's time hated election (Rom. 9:19), and people today hate it. That is unfortunate, but Scripture plainly teaches it, so I will continue to believe and preach it, no matter if the whole world stumbles because of it.
All mature adults have faith in something, but it is up to the unbelieving individual to trust in a benevolent creator enough to humbly accept Hid charity.
God is like the father in the prodigal son parable (Luke 15: 11-32).
The extremely wise father (representing God in the Prodigal Son story) would know what would happen if He gave his young son his inheritance and where the son would wind up. The son did not need someone to come after him since he knows the father’s Love, it was up to the young son to come to his senses because his own actions would drive him to that point and the son could than make a free will choice to be a man take his deserved punishment, not disturb his father further and starve to death in the pigsty or wimp out
trust his father’s love and be willing to accept his father’s charity.
God is doing all He can to help those that are just willing to accept His help. The problem is with accepting God’s help since a person has to humbly accept pure charity since God’s help would be pure charity.
Is the Father in the prodigal son story a monster for allowing his son to make his own choice?
- The Calvinists I have spoken with; stops with Eph. 1: 11 yet if we read further for better context we find: 12 we who first hoped in Christ have been destined and appointed to live for the praise of his glory. 13 In him you also, who have heard the word of truth, the gospel of your salvation, and have believed in him, were sealed with the promised Holy Spirit, 14 which is the guarantee of our inheritance until we acquire possession of it, to the praise of his glory. There are things we have done that were not done for us by God: “Hoping and believing”. Everything in Eph. 1: 3-11 is addressing Christians (we/us) and not non-Christians that will become Christians. Those that become Christians have these blessings.
- The Bible does not talk about nonbelievers being given to Christ, but believers being given to Christ, so the only question is: “how does a person become a believer”?
- The Calvinist will say: “…the ultimate goal of election is the glory and praise of God”, but that means the “election system” of choosing a few for salvation and allowing other to go to hell glorifies God, so everyone is glorifying God no matter what they do? Does the “reprobate” bring “glory” to God by being a reprobate?
I have written a rather long explanation of Romans 9 which is used to support “election to salvation, but it really supports election of those that believe with the bottom line (Rm 9: 14 What then shall we say? Is God unjust? Not at all!...)
God is totally fair and as just as any being could be with everyone. Paul is for the rest of Romans 9-11 explaining how God is just/fair even when it seems to humans God is not being just/fair.
Rm 11: 32 For God has bound all men over to disobedience so that he may have mercy on them all.
The bottom line is it does not matter if you were born Jew or Gentile they both sinned big time and both were judged by their heart condition. We do know there was a “law” written on the hearts of the Gentiles, but the OT scripture is only addressing the Jews with little glimpses of Gentiles (like Nineveh).
As far as Romans 9 this is what I have written as an introduction before:
Verses are pulled out of Romans 9 to support the idea God makes people a particular way so He will save them and makes others a particular way so they will be eternally lost. That is not what is being conveyed by these particular verses.
To best interpret any verse good hermeneutics would have you first understand the context, context, context and context. Who is writing, to whom is he writing, why, where, when is he writing. The questions for Romans 9 would include:
1. Was there a time when Jewish Christians (elect) taught that a good Christian also had to be a good Jew (following especially the dietary requirements, Sabbath and circumcision)?
2. Was there at the same time these Jewish Christians teaching you a good Jew, Christians (elect) teaching you did not have to follow the old Jewish Laws (esp. Sabbath, circumcision, and food)?
3. Was this a significant issue in the first century church, did Paul address this problem in his letters, and when did this problem cease to be a problem?
4. Could there have been and were there Jewish Christians (elect) in Rome at the time of Romans teaching other Gentile Christians (elect) they had to (be circumcised, obey the Sabbath, and/or fool the Old Jewish dietary requirements)?
5. Was Paul’s letter to the Romans written to non-Christians and/or to some non-Christians (non-elect) or to both elect Jew and Gentile Christians?
Paul uses two teaching methods that are taught in secular philosophy classes and are used even in secular classes as the best example of these methods. Paul does an excellent job of building one premise on the previous premises to develop his final conclusions. Paul uses an ancient form of rhetoric known as diatribe (imaginary debate) giving support for the wrong answer before or after asking a logical questions and giving a strong “By no means” and then goes on to explain “why not”. These “questions or comments” are given by an “imaginary” student making it more a dialog with the readers (students) and not just a “sermon”.
The main question in Romans 9 Paul addresses is God being fair or just Rms. 9: 14 What then shall we say? Is God unjust? Not at all!
This will take some explaining, since just prior in Romans 9, Paul went over some history of God’s dealings with the Israelites that sounds very “unjust” like “loving Jacob and hating Esau” before they were born. Again this is typical of all diatribes.
Who in Rome would be having a “problem” with God choosing to work with Isaac and Jacob instead of Ishmael and Esau?
Would the Jewish Christian have a problem with this or would it be the Gentile Christians?
If God treaded you as privileged and special would you have a problem or would you have a problem if you were treated seemingly as common and others were treated with honor for no apparent reason?
That is what is at issue and Paul will explain over the rest of Romans 9-11.
Paul is specific with the issue Rms. 9: 19 One of you will say to me: “Then why does God still blame us? For who is able to resist his will?”
Who is the “one of you” is this Jewish Christian (elect) or Gentile Christian (elect) or is this “non-elect” individual and this “letter” is being written to non-Christians?
Can Jews say they cannot be blamed for failing in their honored position or would it be the Gentiles that would say they cannot be blamed since they were not in the honored position?
Is it really significant in what really counts, if you are born a gentile or Jew in the first century in Rome?
Are there issues and problems with being a first century Jew and was this a problem for Paul?
The Jews were created in a special honorable position that would bring forth the Messiah and everyone else was common in comparison.
How do we know Paul is specifically addressing the Jew/Gentile issue? Rms. 9: 30 What then shall we say? That the Gentiles, who did not pursue righteousness, have obtained it, a righteousness that is by faith; 31 but the people of Israel, who pursued the law as the way of righteousness, have not attained their goal. 32 Why not? Because they pursued it not by faith but as if it were by works. They stumbled over the stumbling stone.
Paul is showing from the position of being made “common” vessels by God the Gentiles had an advantage over the born Israelites (vessels of honor) that had the Law, since the Law became a stumbling stone to them. They both needed faith to rely on God’s Love to forgive them.
We could get into a long discussion of “ honorable and dishonorable vessels” which some equate the dishonorable as being like “clay pigeons” made for destruction, but that is not the best translation of these words. Paul uses the same words conveying the same idea in 2 Tim. 2: 20 In a large house there are articles not only of gold and silver, but also of wood and clay; some are for special purposes and some for common use. 21 Those who cleanse themselves from the latter will be instruments for special purposes, made holy, useful to the Master and prepared to do any good work.
In Tim. Paul talks about these same “dishonorable vessels” in a rich person’s house (definitely not clay pigeons) and these dishonorable vessels (common vessels) can be made “holy” (which fits the Gentiles being made holy).
Those that will be destroyed come from both the common and special vessels that fail to meet their objective.
Without going into the details of Romans 9-11 we conclude with this diatribe question: Romans 11: 11 Again I ask: Did they stumble so as to fall beyond recovery? Not at all! Rather, because of their transgression, salvation has come to the Gentiles to make Israel envious. 12 But if their transgression means riches for the world, and their loss means riches for the Gentiles, how much greater riches will their full inclusion bring!
The common vessels (gentiles) and the vessels of honor (Jews) are equal individually in what is really significant when it comes to salvation, so God is not being unjust or unfair with either group.
If there is still a question about who is being addressed in this section of Rms. 9-11, Paul tells us: Rms. 11: 13 I am talking to you Gentiles. Inasmuch as I am the apostle to the Gentiles, I take pride in my ministry 14 in the hope that I may somehow arouse my own people to envy and save some of them.
This section is mainly for the Gentiles Christians, but the Jewish Christians also needed to hear it.
How could there be a choice and yet not have any conditions to the choice, unless you are saying God is arbitrary in making His choice and randomly selects a “group” of people? Is being arbitrary fair?
Is it fair for the father to mercifully choose to “save” some of His children when the father could just as easily save all His children?