I can say this is not a "problem" for us but not an "issue" for us (if that makes sense) For almost 3yrs my hubby has been working in a job where he *has* to yell at his subordinates (*hint* we are military) and at times this has spilled over into some of our disagreements. I am the one that remains calm and level headed. I can really honestly say that I've only raised my voice one time at him,and it involved our dc (kids weren't involved in yelling,but I yelled b/c of something he did)
If you are a yeller, do you loathe being told to keep your voice down? For some reason telling him to keep his voice down angers him more causing him to get defensive!
If you are the one that gets yelled *at* how does it make you feel?
The reason why I ask is b/c I'd like to see the diff between men and womens responses. I was reading aother thread in this forum where a lady said when her dh yells it can be very intimidating and scarey. I Actually feel the same way sometimes! My dh has NEVER gotten phyisical with me, but yet when he yells there is always that "what if he flies off the handle and goes there" feeling!
Do men feel the same way if their wife is a yeller?
Btw-dh and I have a great relationship, even tho he isn't saved, but this is one area( since NO relationship is perfect) that could use some tweaking!
~In him
If you are a yeller, do you loathe being told to keep your voice down? For some reason telling him to keep his voice down angers him more causing him to get defensive!
If you are the one that gets yelled *at* how does it make you feel?
The reason why I ask is b/c I'd like to see the diff between men and womens responses. I was reading aother thread in this forum where a lady said when her dh yells it can be very intimidating and scarey. I Actually feel the same way sometimes! My dh has NEVER gotten phyisical with me, but yet when he yells there is always that "what if he flies off the handle and goes there" feeling!
Do men feel the same way if their wife is a yeller?
Btw-dh and I have a great relationship, even tho he isn't saved, but this is one area( since NO relationship is perfect) that could use some tweaking!
~In him